How do I rationalize my sadness?
I don’t understand why I am feeling the way that I am feeling,
and I cannot seem to escape it.
The more I look for why I am feeling this way,
the more caught up in this negative emotion I get.
I have tried all the appreciation shiz,
I know I have lot’s to be grateful for,
but it’s like it does not matter.
I still feel so empty.
I feel lost,
disappointed in myself.
I am scared of what my future holds.
And if I don’t figure out how to fix these things then I am doomed.
I have been here so long,
I don’t even know if I can fathom what happiness is.
Anything in these statements align to how you are feeling luv?
We all can get caught up in sadness.
For some it is a life long game.
For others we go through periods.
But there are a few things that EVERYONE has in common when we speak SADNESS.
Sadness is all about us having a temporary distorted view point on life or a situation.
It tell’s us that we are out of alignment with who we really are.
And in our need to “fix” the sadness we apply focused concentraion on the cause which in turn only digs us deeper into this pit of dispair.
Might seem hopeless if you think too much about it.
How are we to find a solution if we only dig ourselves deeper into it by trying to fix it?
If you look at depression,
or sadness,
hoplessness…
what do we do when we expereince these natural emotions that feel uncomfortable to us?
We go into problem solving mode.
We now know that there is “something broken” or not right-
typically that something is us so we believe,
and we look for solutions to repair the damage.
So we self medicate,
we get a doctor to confirm to us that we are broken,
we point outword at people and events and blame them for the broken pieces.
And we go into this mode of “IF ONLY.”
“IF ONLY” is a void. It is a space of emptiness that we believe needs to be filled by something.
“IF ONLY” is a concept that we have no control over our state of being.
“IF ONLY” leads us to believe that if things were different that then we would be happy.
“IF ONLY” makes us a victim.
And bares with it a feeling of weakness, destitution, and lostness.
“IF ONLY” is not the answer!
And bringing our focused attention to the problem,
analyzing every aspect of it ,
and bringing even more light to what is wrong,
will NEVER solve the problem.
It will however make it grow.
It will make it feel like we can’t get out of the muck.
It will appear that our life journey is one full of pot holes and sadness.
And the funny thing is that we forget who is driving our car.
YOU ARE DRIVING YOUR CAR.
And let’s just simplify this a tad here.
If you have ever driven a car down a road that had a bunch of pot holes,
how did you avoid hitting all the pot holes?
How did you limit your exposure to the pot holes?
Think about it.
Put yourself behind the wheel luv.
Because THAT is where you are at.
I am pretty sure that in order to avoid or limit hitting the pot holes you looked on the path at the spaces that did not have them or had less of them.
And you then guided your car by keeping your focus on the road that had less or no pot holes.
Because you understand that if you drove looking at what you wanted to avoid, that you would stear your vehicle right into the holes.
Correct?
Well sadness is the pot holes in this analogy.
You could put any feared emotion in it’s place and it would all equate out to the same concept.
When we try and fix our sadness by covering it up with different things,
we numb ourselves to the cause as well as the problem.
So we never solve the issue.
It’s kind like thinking that you can avoid the bumpy road by taking one hand and putting it over your eye’s while driving.
If you can’t see the path, pot holes and flat spaces then you will feel safer.
You won’t be scared to face the pot holes.
But you won’t be able to avoid them either.
And if you are wondering why sadness seem’s to grab you by your balls out of no where,
the answer is simple.
You are driving with your hand over your eye’s and expecting a clear path because of it.
You have not actually dealt with the core issue.
That core issue is always the same,
no matter the subject area of our world that we are sad about.
The core issue is that we are NOT in alignment with WHO WE REALLY ARE.
WTF! Does that even mean?
WHO WE REALLY ARE?
I am who I am, right?
Wrong.
And this is what sadness is trying to show you.
Sadness is not something to fear,
it is something to be grateful for.
It is a powerful teacher.
It show’s you exactly how out of alignment you are from your truth.
And your truth,
is the same as my truth,
the same as anyone else’s truth.
Your truth is this:
YOU ARE WORTHY.
Worthy of love.
Worthy of connection.
Worthy of happiness.
Worthy of well being.
Worthy of abundance.
And you don’t have to do or prove anything to be worthy.
You were born worthy.
All you have to do,
is have a bit of self-love and compassion.
You do these things by stepping out of the vitctim mode of fear and scarcity.
You are sad because you believe you cannot be happy unless you have ______________________ ( fill in the blank.)
You believe that in order to have this_____________,
that it must look/act/feel/show up like this ______________________________________________________________.
And you are wagering your happiness on it doing as you “think” it should,
instead of allowing it to be however it needs to be.
It’s your need to make it happen according to your programmed guidelines supported by your fear based thinking that is manifesting the emotion of sadness.
And you are stuck in this pot hole of sadness because you focused on the pot hole,
instead of what feels better.
Abraham Lincoln once said, “People are about as happy as they make thier minds to be.”
What he meant by this was that WE GET TO CHOOSE HOW HAPPY WE ARE.
And we gain power and a better emotional state of being by thinking bettter thoughts.
No one is forcing you to think what you are are thinking.
You get to choose your thoughts.
You get to choose your focus.
And when you run down a rabbit hole of sadness, ‘it’s up to you to catch yourself and shift your thoughts to something that feels better than what you are thinking currently.
Just level up your sad thinking to anger thinking.
Your anger thinking to blame thinking.
Your blame thinking to irritation thinking.
And keep moving up to your next best feeling thought.
Before you know it you will discover your true state of being again.
That being worthiness and love.
And there is no space in worthiness or love for all this fear based thinking.
So what is your next best feeling thought today?
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That is what the F-ck Yes! Life is all about luv.
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