HE IS NOT NICE.
HE IS NOT SWEET.
My man is neither of these.
And thank heavens that he is not.
I could not surrender my feminine heart to a man that was not strong.
That did not stand firm in whom he is at his core.
I could not respect a man who allowed the world to walk all over him.
Or allowed me to.
How is a woman ever to trust a man who waivers in his boundaries,
In his energy, in who he is depending on what life is bringing to him.
There is zero leadership in the masculine that believes that he is to be nice and sweet.
Yet today we live in a world where our men are told that THIS is exactly what they should strive for. That inorder to be a “good guy” a “respectable man” that honors women and others that he needs to be nice and sweet.
Men today are looked down upon and harshly judged for being masculine.
For being strong willed.
Wanting to lead their families.
Having opinions and ideas that are different then their woman’s.
Men are encouraged to treat their women like delicate china, yet know that she is boss.
This is considered to be “honoring the feminine.”
Understand that your woman has emotions, that she can be irrational, that she has stress and that all the burden is ultimately on her back, not yours as a man. Love her for the fact that she is choosing to bear the full load.
THIS IS THE EMPOWERED FEMININE.
And you are damn effing lucky that she is with you “sweet man.”
Who says nice guys finish last?
Nice guys are the masculine of the 2000’s.
It’s how we mothers have raised our boys.
Be nice to women AT ALL COST.
Including your core.
Including your boundaries and your truth.
Swaying to her will no matter what.
Or you will be disrespecting women.
You will be a man like all men of time past who just use women for your gratification and pleasure. You will only see women as a tool, as something to own.
Yes, we mothers have done a great job at raising our men of the 2000’s to lay down their souls so that the women they choose don’t feel the pain that we and women of many generations have felt brought on by men.
But, I dare ask you if this is healthy?
Is this bringing women any more safety with men or trust in them?
Is this truly preventing women from being sexually objectified?
Or are our men only now hiding under the coats of “nice and sweet”?
Are they presenting a “respectable gentleman” with an ill hatred toward women because they feel and see the shaming of the masculine, but smile in our faces, hold doors open and attentively listen to our venting because they know that this “woke” masculine is the pathway to getting a woman to think that she is safe?
Women of today struggle with trusting men.
They struggle surrendering to men.
They starve themselves from truly leaning into their feminine hearts because they have been raised to believe that men are evil.
What if the reality was that in order for a woman to respect and trust a man,
She had to be certain that he was who he presented himself to be?
What if she had to test him, had to see if he would waiver on his boundaries, on his beliefs and what he stood for based on what she said or did?
Can we ever lay down our armour and trust anyone who tells us what we want to hear or just gives us what we want without any question or concern?
Of course not.
The “woke masculine” is proving to be a masculine that leans into being in touch with their feminine and supportive of the feminine. They are kind at all measures. They meditate and are spiritually enlightened men. They do yoga. They eat clean. They love animals and they don’t litter. They are educated. And they don’t push for sex. They do not see color, nor religion. They are accepting of all sexual preferences and relationship labels.
They are “woke.”
This is the image that is painted.
And it is a masculine that I for one sure AF do not trust.
Weak in who they are.
And none of the above items make them “good guys.”
You know what an empowered woman wants and needs in her man?
Do you know what it takes to get a woman to trust and lay down her armour, to let her penetrate her heart and soul?
A “good man” who has purpose and direction.
Who knows who he is and is not afraid to state it.
A man who can speak his mind as well as his feelings and not be waivered by the ebbs and flows of life or his woman. He must be willing to fight for his woman, his family and his truth above everything else. Sometimes that means that he does see differences in people. It might mean that he believes in guns and protecting the things he loves at all cost instead of turning the other cheek because it’s more socially acceptable. It may mean that he differs with his woman, her family, or her friends. He may not be down for just saying yes and pleasing everyone. He may have hard boundaries around his time, his space, his money, his health and his heart.
A “good man” does not act from a space of concern of what others will perceive him as.
He does not speak from a place of fear of being accepted.
He knows who he is.
You can trust in his consistency.
You can see his strength, his love and his commitment in his eyes and how he chooses to show up in life.
And he treats his woman the way he treats his life.
He loves her wide open in respect for himself,
Out of love for himself.
And he stays true.
Socially unacceptable is the “good man.”
But he is the only man that we women will ever be able to trust and surrender our hearts to.
My man is not nice.
He is not sweet.
He is, however, a “good-good man.”
And when I look in his eyes I feel safely held.
I feel guided by his heart to go deeper into mine.
I feel his power and strength and I know for certain that I can count on how he will show up in life and with me in any second of our lives together,
Because he is consistently living from his core.
“Every man knows that his highest purpose in life cannot be reduced to any particular relationship. If a man prioritizes his relationship over his highest purpose, he weakens himself, disserves the universe, and cheats his woman of an authentic man who can offer his full, undivided presence.”
― David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
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