😅🤣🤨AND HE ASKED…ARE YOU UPSET ABOUT SOMETHING? —MY RESPONSE, “ALWAYS.” 👊🤣🤨
Perhaps one of the most honest answers a woman has ever given a man and that’s what we are talking about today…women’s honesty or lack thereof and how it relates to sexual fulfillment.
Alright men, today I am going to be your “wing chick…”
And let you in on the female brain and emotions a tad.
You might want to sit down and pour yourself a drink because you will most likely find yourself scratching your head in bewilderment by the time you get done reading this.
I just want to start out by saying that the majority of the time we women don’t fully understand why we are feeling or thinking the way that we are feeling or thinking.
So guys, don’t think that you will ever understand the feminine.
Cuz’ you won’t.
But you can try and gain some insight to what you may perceive as wishy-washy, as too fluid, or passive even. 👈
🌹First, realize that what attracts you to your woman is her feminine flow. The fact that she is different from you.
🌹You love her smile and laugh. She won’t be smiling and laughing very much if she turns toward her masculine energy and gets up in her head. Over thinking and analyzing, problem solving and leading do not make a woman warm, sexy, or vibrant. They dim her light and laughter. This does not mean that she should not or cannot be a great problem solver or leader, it just means that if she takes up residence there for very long she will lose the luster and find herself turned off to life in general.
🌹You adore those moments in bed with her where she surrenders fully to you, where she is the seductress of your dreams and you feel like a king. This sort of surrender is only authentically achieved if she can feel herself fully. If she is having to explain what she is feeling or needing, or feels like she needs to perform for you then she will not embody herself and instead just be “putting on a show.” Which I am guessing you may enjoy but once realized that it is just that, a show, you may not want it. You want the real deal, right? This requires that she be aroused long before the penetration ever happens.
👉Foreplay for the next round starts 5 minutes before the current sexual event ends. 🤯
What does that mean you may ask?
It means that it should never end.
It means that if you want your woman to be raring to go whenever you are ready, that you gotta realize that men and women DO NOT operate the same sexually. 👈🤨💥
What type of an orgasm a woman has, has a lot to do with how long she will be aroused, feeling sexual and be open to more sex and intimacy.
The issue is that the majority of women fib to their guys about the sex and the orgasm.
That’s right men, more than likely she has been lying to you.🤯
I know, it’s not what any guy wants to hear…
and that’s why women don’t tell you the truth.
They feel they are being kind to you by not saying, yeah I did not have an orgasm. Or “you did not even help me to get ready for sex.”
Women have a tough time asking for what they need.
They may say, ” I want to have sex.”
But when it comes down to actually asking for what they need, thats a different tale all together and that is because they themselves have no idea what they need most of the time because they are so disconnected from their sex, their hearts and their bodies in general.
Women and men alike think that a woman’s best orgasm comes from the clitorus. Or a whole bunch of thrusting hard and fast.
But this is just f-cking.
It’s empty.
And it does not fulfill her or you.
It may get you off, and it might get her a quick release too,
but it is not going to fulfill her or make her feel connected to you.
👉In order for her to surrender and have a deep orgasm, she needs to feel you. 👈
And it’s more than your manhood I am speaking of here. 😳
She needs your heart. <3
She needs you to lead her with your confidence,
your passion and desire.
She needs you to kiss her, to touch her.
For two decades I have been telling men that if they could just see a woman’s body as one big sexual organ and make love to the entirety of her that they would get so much further with turning their woman on.
👉Men back away from kissing.
👉Men love a woman’s body but do not sensually touch it.
👉Men love a womans breasts and hips but forget about them during foreplay and sex.
👉Men are fascinated with female orgasm and pleasure but don’t want to playfully explore to make it happen. EVERY TIME!
👉Men feel threatened by toys and requests.
👉Men don’t put enough emphasis on playing, laughing, courting, snuggling of which all lead her into feeling you more and surrendering to you deeper, as well as being able to tune into her own body more.
Foreplay is not just about sexy, sensual touching BTW.
Foreplay is about caring and courting.
Foreplay is about talking and listening.
Foreplay is about letting her feel your emotions.
Foreplay is about adventure and always realizing that no matter how long you have been together, there is a new person before you each day that you need to discover.
Now maybe all of this is not news to you.
And that is great if that is the case.
👉But how does it relate to a woman being wishy-washy, too fluid or passive even?
No matter if your woman is deep in her feminine or locked up in her masculine, she is still a woman. And she has been programmed since birth as well as bears with her generational traumas and mindsets that tell her that she needs to take care of you.
That your ideas, needs, etc are priority.
She may internally feel different and say, “No damn it, I matter too.” But 98% of the time she will end up weighing out what she thinks you want vs how she feels or what she wants/needs and she will the majority of the time come back in your favor.
This will show up from the quantity and type of sex you are having to what is for dinner and how she sets up the home.
If you are among the many men out there who tire at asking your woman what she wants or needs only to get a deer in the headlight look back from her, realize that she is processing in that moment what she believes is the “right” answer to give to have the maximum amount of peace, connection and happiness over all.
👉These are the key things women want for.
Peace, Connection and Happiness. 👈
They translate down to security in all areas.
Women in general avoid confrontation and anything that we feel may cause it.
We are not warriors unless we need to be.
Women are nurturers by nature.
We are caregivers.
Peacekeepers.
Soothers.
So when you ask us our opinion about something…
We instantly go into, what’s the best answer for peace, connection and happiness? For my security in life and relationship?
You get the deer in the headlight look and we say whatever we feel is right. However, this answer may be completely opposite from what we actually need or desire. Thus, causing us to appear wishy-washy, too emotional, passive, etc.
A woman does not change her mind nearly as much as it is perceived that we do. 🤯
We just speak what we feel is right and then speak our truth sometime down the road.
Now here is how orgasm, foreplay and male connection plays a role in her truth telling or trying to get the right answer that is ingrained in us women to give.
The sex and orgasm that comes from the quick fix, the f-cking without heart and soul or connection, all of that just keeps her in a state of “performing” or of giving you the answer that she believes you need and want. It does not fulfill her, heal her, align her in any fashion. It’s fast food sexing and it keeps her operating from a place of emptiness and fear.
It pulls her deeper into a space of needing to make the “right” answers to keep peace, connection and happiness instead of opening up and surrendering to you and her.
AUTHENTICALLY.
You want your woman’s truth on all subject matters…
(most likely not going to happen…lol)
But you want to know that she can and will tell you her needs, desires and even initiate because she wants to initiate…
Or she will share what she wants to watch or eat?
Or where she would like to visit for vacation?
Or the fact that she is unhappy about something?
👉You want her to feel safe and secure with you?👈
Which equates to healing her trust issues that she has accumulated over her lifetime and learned from what society and history teaches?
Well, then SLOW THE F-CK DOWN with her. 😳🤯🤨
👊Stop f-cking her. 👊
🤯Stop distancing yourself from your own heart and body to prevent yourself from not having the stamina you feel is required to get her there and instead, make love to her every moment you are with her and even when you are not.
😘Try talking with her.
Asking her how her day was when you come together.
😘Kiss her in the morning as though you want to eat her up and kiss her in the evening with reverence.
👉Hold her close.
👉Look into her eyes.
👉Make her laugh.
👉Set aside time daily to just be with her.
👊👊👊And when you are wanting a little nookie, don’t expect that she can go from zero to 120 in the time frame that you can.
BECAUSE SHE CAN’T!!!!😳
You are damaging her body when you expect this.
You are shutting down her heart when you expect that.
You are disconnecting her from you and herself when you expect that.
She needs physical foreplay for her body to ignite.
To feel and get aroused.
For her to get out of her head and into her sex.
And IF you can accomplish all of this (I know just a small tab to complete, but I have faith in you sir…) THEN….
She will provide you both with a most beautiful performance.
It will be authentic, deep, loving, sensual, passionate and fully surrendered to your intimacy and connection.
She will carry you to the thresholds of heaven.
She will have you basking in the joy and expansiveness of your unity and sex.
From this space of rapture and fulfillment she will speak with more confidence and trust in you and herself.
Your radiant authentic soul will dance with you.
Until you forget all that was learned and shared here and take it for granted to wonder once again, why is she so wishy-washy, so emotional and lost, so passive….why?
And you will learn one day that feminine needs you to penetrate her fully, heart, body and soul for her to be centered.
And to have faith that her words, her needs and desires can be heard without fear.
She needs you.
She needs your leadership and strength.
Your guidance and passion.
Your love and presence.
Without it she is lost.
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
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