💥💥🌹WE WOMEN BOND WITH MEN PHYSICALLY💥💥💥
Meaning we bond with men through physical connection.
Sex! and Touch.
You have sex with a guy and have an orgasm and you my beautiful are bonding to him.
The hormone oxytocin releases which is 👉THE BONDING CHEMICAL!👈
Rose tinted glasses are put on and you start to see him as something yummy, and relationship potential.
But the issue is that…
👉MEN DON’T BOND THROUGH SEX!😳😳😳
They want sex, they love sex, but they don’t fall in love and bond through sex.
They don’t feel compelled to get all up in their “feelings” because they had some damn good sex with you.
And it really just breaks down to basic primal natures here.
Men are created to sow their seed, women to nurture the seed.
(*I want to say that I am speaking generalized, of course exceptions apply to this basic human rule and the points I aim to make today are not just toward just women but also men, as they are all about development of the self to create a sustaining happy and healthy relationship with a partner.)
Now back to the meat and potatoes of sex, bonding and what ATTRACTS A HIGH VALUE MAN.
Let’s first define a high value man.
High value (man or women) AKA what society wants us to believe is woke, conscious, divine, spiritual, etc… whatever hootie- tootie popular labels you want to give it which are NOT (sorry, not sorry, just saying and you will see why.) EQUALS or is defined as…
👊Emotionally and physically Grown Up!👊
Of which the majority of both sexes are not.
To be emotionally and physically grown up you are emotionally mature, not meaning caught in your emotions, or overly emotional expressive or led by them, but that you can process them, understand them, look for understanding, compassion, love, empathy and can stand behind your words and values.
Being physically grown up means that you are RESPONSIBLE.
You can pay your bills, you take care of your stuff in all areas of life, you don’t have a bunch of chaos and baggage in your life, you are not in victim mode, you are self aware. PLUS…
You are sexually responsible for self and respect boundaries and needs. Such as birth control, safe sex methods, emotional/mental sexual boundaries and do not impose fantasies or past items onto your partner.
YOU GET THAT SEX IS NOT JUST PHYSICAL BUT ALSO MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL.
And you are human enough to care about the person that you are sleeping with.
💥MEN DON’T TYPICALLY BOND THROUGH SEX.💥
Meaning they don’t get as attached as women do in sex.
Men attach/bond through experiences,
through social activities with their woman,
hobbies, mutual interests, adventures.
👉By doing things together.👈
Because men are ACTION oriented.
They want to see a woman in action,
see how she deals with things.
What her responses are.
Where she loses her cool.
Her sense of humor, adventure, common grounds with them.
Can he drop into his masculine fully with her and trust her?
A man that is in victor consciousness NOT victim consciousness wants a woman he can trust.
IF HE IS LOOKING FOR COMMITMENT AND LOVE.
He wants foundation and direction.
👉What we have in today’s world is a bunch of talk and little to no action in our dating and relating.
Outside of some casual hook ups, which both parties enter fully armoured up emotionally and thus physically too. Providing limited pleasure or trust in any area.
And we attempt to build lasting relationships on THIS.
All that phone chatting,
That face timing we women believe is connection and relationship building….
WELL IT’S NOT to a man.
We think we can build a deep, passionate, connective, emotional connection with man and he will want to do life with us and take us seriously even if he is a thousand miles away and we only see him once a month.
Or he lives not that far away but we only see him one date night a week.
These sort of relating ideas keep separation and do not instill a desire from the man long term.
That is why so many women wonder,
When the man they have been dating for so long all of a sudden ghosts them, disappears, or says that he wants to talk.
We women think,
“He must be a commitment phobe or emotionally unavailable.”
We hear all day long about those things.
👉👉👊The “wounded masculine.”😳😂🧐
Well, here is the thing…
It’s not about the wounded masculine, although that is a thing…
Most men however are actually just following their design code here and losing interest in you because they are NOT emotionally bonded with you the way that you are with them.
💥💥IT IS THAT SIMPLE.💥💥
Much like men.
Men are simple creatures.
Yes they are complex.
Yes they have deep feelings.
Yes they are so many brilliant things.
But men, men are simple.
And when it comes to a man bonding to a woman,
opening his heart to her.
That means that he feels like he can TRUST her.
And an emotionally mature man, wants these things from a woman in order to that:
👊💥👉TRANSPARENCY – Its a popular word for today. Everyone talks about it but hardly anyone understands it, especially in relationship terms with an intimate partner. And if they do understand it at all, even one tenth then they may feel a bit of upset stomach… because transparency in relationship means this: If it is material to the relationship, meaning it may effect you or I, then it needs to be spoken, shared, etc.😳 And often we feel this is an embreaching on our personal boundaries and rights in relationship and that another person has no right to ask things of us or to know unless we are very committed. However, an emotionally mature person will want this from someone earlier on before they buy all the way into the relationship and commit. They will not have trust in you without it. ( men and women alike)
👊💥👉EMPATHY- Another hot word of our day and age. But empathy is more than just feeling someone else’s feelings, it’s also caring about their feelings. Women typically have bank accounts full of empathy when they are getting into a man, so much so that many women become door mats to men and all they care about is how he feels. THIS IS NOT ATTRACTIVE nor does it instill trust in your guy. He has had plenty of dealings most likely with women like you on this and he knows that it leads to blow up where the truth will come out. He does not want this! If he is truly a grown up man, he will want your truth in the moment and he will want to deal with it right there. Here comes your transparency… Other women get caught up in the contrast between their personal feelings and their guy’s feelings and they may become very entitled with their feelings, not caring about the man’s. This is because they may be bitter and resentful because of past situations and the fear and pain they still carry and have not worked through yet. This too, is NOT ATTRACTIVE or safe for the man. What a grown up man, a high value man is wanting and attracted to, what he can lean in and trust and commit to is him and his woman coming together and genuinely caring about each other’s feelings. That they both want to know where and how the other is.
👊💥👉YOU TAKE PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY – A high value man does not want a woman who is jaded, bitter, resentful and blaming men for where she is at in life. Just like you would not want that from him, he feels the same. And if someone is always complaining and not able to take responsibility for their part in past relationship failure and challenges, even if their partner ghosted, cheated, or abused them then they are still stuck in their wound and playing the victim. Taking responsibility for your actions, your choices and what is happening in your life is sexy and attractive.
👊💥👉YOU ARE A HEALTHY FIGHTER- A grown A*s man understands that conflict will happen in intimate relationships. He knows that couples fight, but he wants to know that he can trust you even here to come from love and rock solidness with a desire to do what is right and best for the partnership not just YOU. He does not aim to be right and he will not be attracted to a woman whose mission is to prove that she is right and he is wrong.
👉Healthy fighting, especially in intimate relationships is about looking for happiness over rightness. 👈
This means that when friction comes up, you are willing to listen to your partner, be present, communicate back to them what you heard, receive any adjustments they may have, and ACCEPT that their viewpoint is true for them.
Then to offer your truth, being your viewpoint to them and explain anything in ease and understanding that they may have not fully grasped.
Then to come to a realistic agreement about the disagreement.
This is healthy conflict communication.
It is not about being right but standing in empathy and compassion with a desire to find happiness for both instead of rightness for one.
💥💥💥Last but not least…💥💥💥
👊💥👉YOU HAVE STANDARDS- This means that your actions match your values. Yes YOUR ACTIONS!
Remember that men are action oriented and they need to see that they can trust you in different situations in life, physically, mentally, emotionally to have the standards of backing your values.
Your words ‘should’ just be a bi-product of your values.
Your actions need to line up to what you say you value.
If you say you value honesty, but you cannot be honest about where you want to go, what you need from him and then swallow your words around that and expect him to read your mind and get it right, only to bite his head off months later about it, then guess what… your actions DO NOT MATCH YOUR SAID VALUE.
It’s that simple.
If you wonder if you guy is a grown up, if he is a high value man, then this one thing is a vital key to finding out.
A “wounded masculine” or emotionally immature man will not want you to have standards. And he certainly will not like you supporting your standards/values with your actions and words.
MEN CAN GIVE THEIR BODIES AWAY FAR EASIER THAN WOMEN, BUT IT TAKES A LOT MORE SECURITY AND TRUST FOR THEM TO GIVE THEIR EMOTIONAL SIDE AND HEART.🥰
The whole package an emotionally and physically mature man is looking for starts with these elements in a woman, NOT being a freak in bed… not being his therapist on the phone for hours on end…not being his maid and cook… and not being his coach on the field of life.
As great as all of those things are and can be,
They have a time and place.
True partnership and commitment is based in trust.
👉👊😳All of these points I share here are a two way street ladies and gents. Gentlemen, a high value woman wants all the same from YOU!!!!
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