THE TALE OF PUSSY- EVERY WOMANS STORY

 

“He stood at my gates with a fierceness that I did not feel that I could prevent. His master was focused, determined, and almost emotionless to the events that were about to occur. I could feel my mistress wanting to ignore and turn away, but she did not. She spoke nothing and just allowed him to push past the towers of her legs. She said nothing but retreated from her heart, from me as he pushed up on my gates and barreled through them. Entering my castle’s tunnels, pressing forward with force. 

 

He never slowed himself. 

He did not pause to introduce himself or ask if I were wanting or willing. He just assumed my consent to enter my chambers, and my mistress spoke nothing. I could feel her distant in the back of the room, watching, uncertain as to what to do, entertaining herself with thoughts and worries, while I was laid out before him, for his pleasure, for his taking. 

 

My walls were weak and unprepared. 

I admit that I would have wanted for him to lead me into the halls of rapture by his side if only he would have asked. If he had slowed down and connected with me. Kissed my lips and allowed us to merge into togetherness. Yes, if he had not just entered with force and lack of care, if he had simply showed me love, it could have been different. 

 

I would have said yes. 

I would have wanted to dance with him. 

But he did not want to dance with me. He did not want to kiss me, to touch me, to be tender or show patience. He wanted to show dominance. He was not there within my walls to entwine our hearts and souls, to make love or go into the depths of intimacy. He did not care of my willing surrender nor my pain. He wanted to just be there in my walls where he was cradled in my warmth, where he could feel that moment but run from his heart and from me.

 

He wanted to build a barrier between us. 

Although he was unconscious, his anger and his pain were ruling him and their rule was driving daggers into my flesh. They were using his force, his lack of presence as the sword to penetrate and drain me, to conquer us and create a separation. 

 

As my mistress escapes through the windows of her soul to lands she cannot take me, I lay there open, feeling his blows to my core. Unable to respond, a lifelessness overtakes me. I feel saddened at this event. Why does he not feel my lack of movement? Why does he turn away from looking at my mistress? Why does he seem to not care? Where is he or what has overcome him to make him turn away from who he has always been?

 

It is a darkness. I am convinced. 

I try to view him and his master through my mistresses eyes. I want to see what she sees at this moment. I am mad at him, at his master and at her. They have all allowed me to be used without consideration as to what I will feel, as to the wounds that are being inflicted. My mistress I am sure will pick up the pieces after this event is over, she will attempt to help me heal, she will tell me that this was an accident, that it will never happen again, that she will protect me. But I do not believe her. I am sure that his master will claim ignorance to the event. Not understanding or even believing. We are so different and our differences create a lack of trust on both sides. 

 

I am exhausted though. I have experienced too much of this treatment in my life. The wounds have me calloused and not wanting to feel anymore. My desire. My hunger. My rapture. I want to flee from these things. I know that I cannot actually run away and that my castle gates will be entered with and without my permission many more times in this life, but I am losing hope that anyone actually sees or cares for me. I am losing my ability to see the love that I want for in this life. I feel like nothing. I feel washed up and empty. 

 

I am numb.”Pussy

 

The tale of pussy – this story book style tale about Dick pushing his way into Pussy’s gates without consent, proper introduction, courting, connecting or care. This tale is a tale that every woman’s pussy could tell in different sexual moments of our life experience. 

 

It is not just about the rape survivors or the girls who suffered molestation. It is about the confident, the beautiful, the women who would say that they have not experienced sexual trauma. It is for the married, the dating, the straight and the lesbian. It is for all women. 

 

Our pussies were designed for sexing. They are truly a magical space that can unfold and cradle life, pleasure and suffering. 

 

It is up to we women and our mates as to what our pussies experience. Naomi Wolf in her brilliant book, “Vagina: A New Biography,” – a book I believe that every human being should read, especially those who are owners of pussies or who claim to love pussies, writes on her scientific and historical research on vaginal experiences and how they impact women. 

 

Adapted overview of important points to understand.

 

Top 3 Secrets every man and woman should know about the vagina.

 

 — Secret #1: The Vagina’s Experiences can and do on the level of biology, boost women’s self-confidence; can help unleash female creativity, or present blocks to this creativity. These experiences can contribute to a woman’s sense of the joyful interconnectedness of the material and spiritual world or else to her grieving awareness of the loss of that sense of interconnectedness. They can help her realize a higher state of being, an almost mystical experience of life or they can have her longing in a state of always feeling like there should be more to life. This latter experience can lead to not only a lack of desire for sex, but also be the drop of poison in her life that brings her to a state of what can only be called existential depression or despair.

 

What this breaks down to: If you are a woman or know a woman who seems to just be in a constant state of not feeling connected, disillusioned, lacking desire for life in general, may seem to always have “health issues” that no doctor can find a reason for, is taking antidepressants, is in a relationship that is comfortable but not leaving you in passionate connection, has a weak immune system, feels lost in your life, life is about duty not living, full of fear and regrets, then your vaginal experiences have led you to  the latter above. If this is you or you know someone like this then there is hope. Through education and positive vaginal experiences, you can release the traumas and blockages and find  a new vibrant life. Full of abundance, joy, happiness, desire, love and fun.

 

Secret #2: Every Woman REALLY is wired differently!

It’s all in a woman’s neural wiring. Some women’s nerves branch more in  the vagina; other women’s branch more in the clitoris. Some branch a great deal more in the perineum, and some more at the mouth of the cervix.

 

So our culture tells us that we should flick our bean, that we should vibrate the hell out of the clit, that guys should take the guaranteed orgasm stride and go for the clit. Society also tells us that there is this wonderful G-Spot and that will make a woman hit the ceiling with pleasure. Often though, these societal ideas are not reality for many. Some women love anal sex, some find it painful. Some women believe that they cannot have a vaginal orgasm while others have pain if their bean is being flicked.

 

Now, emotions do play a role, many things can contribute to helping a woman open up and become more orgasmic in many ways. And as we spoke of before there can be trauma and other vaginal experiences that can block a woman’s ability to feel pleasure. Matter a fact a woman’s vagina can actually make her feel pain or great discomfort if her vaginal experiences are not positive or she has blocked emotions in her womb and vaginal canal. But there is this vital point to remember as well. All women are wired differently! An emotional healed woman who is open sexually will be more likely to be multi-orgasmic and able to experience pleasure in many ways but she may still have one spot that is far more pleasurable then another.

 

How can you help your wiring? 

  • Keeping a healthy spine is #1 in sexual health and feeling. Nerves can get pinched and vertebra’s can start to deteriorate and apply pressure, causing a loss in sensation or even pain during sexual relations. 
  • Do yoga, this helps with body awareness and helps keep your muscles strong to support a healthy spine. 
  • Get SBL integration work done to help release emotional blocks that have manifested in the physical body. 
  • Speak your truth! Especially in your sexing. 

 

Secret #3: Make love to her mind first!

Okay so I know that you have all heard this before, but this time you need to take it seriously. Making love to a woman’s mind is indeed the ticket. It’s not about telling a woman what you think she wants to hear, it’s not even about always being a gentleman. What it is about is that women  simply CANNOT get into a state of orgasm if they feel a bunch of negative stress. A woman’s mind MUST be relaxed, her stress level must be low, she must feel safe.

 

Making love to a woman is a constant.

When it comes to actual sex, It is important to stimulate, sensitively and skillfully, whatever combination of a woman’s clitoris, vagina, G-spot, labia, perineum, rectum, and mouth of the cervix that really makes her happy. This can change with the time of the month, her mind state which does affect her body. A woman may want soft lingering lovemaking one time and the hard, powerful sex another. This may even change during one sex event. As a woman’s partner it is most important to stay in the moment, being present and always supporting her, encouraging her to share what she needs. As a woman, it is important to get familiar and comfortable with asking for and knowing what your body needs at each moment.

 

Now back to the Tale of Pussy and Dick above.

If Dick and his master had just slowed down and courted Pussy and her mistress. If they had not just barreled through the castle gates assuming consent, desire or readiness, then Pussy could have had a positive vaginal experience instead of having this moment add onto all the other past traumatic events she had been through, where she found herself quickly comparing and feeling similar disconnectedness. If her mistress had just said, “Wait. I am not wanting or ready, I need connection. Kissing. Foreplay.” and if Dicks master had not ignored the quietness of Pussy and her mistress, or had not even approached her gates if he was not wanting to bond, to make love, then things would have been different. 

 

But alas, this tale of pussy – like so many tales before it and that will come after it, is a tale of a loving couple. A committed couple. A couple who does not want to do harm to each other, themselves or their relationship. It is a tale of ignorance, or fear, of doubt and wounding. It is oh so common place and it is a tale of duty sex. It is a story of how women sacrifice themselves, their well-being, their pleasure, their truth, healing and even relationship bonds for a brief moment of allowing their partners to “use’ them as a vessel of relief, purging of negative emotions, and stress. It is a story of many men who are just blind and dumb to how different sex is for women and how damaging it can be on many fronts. The intent is not to harm on any side often, but the result can often be detrimental.

 

Take heed dear reader.

You have taken part in this tale before. 

It is not too late though to change your story. 

It is not too late to learn Pussy’s truth – and honor her. 

 

As Always, 

Stop Existing & Start Living

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

Rene’ S. (KW)

 

*Photo Credit to DandeLion Images


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