“I remember the first time I sucked a man’s cock. I was 19 years old and desperate to explore my sexuality (the high school boys always seemed too “immature”).
I’d spent several days anticipating my upcoming tryst with this man and poured over the internet for hours looking for the best ways to give head.
After memorizing what seemed like countless “Top 10” articles, I deemed myself an expert and set out on my mission for fellatio.
The hungry little slut was born.
14 years and (*ahem*) several cocks later, I’ve found myself even more in love with sucking cock.
The soft folds in my mouth. The sweet-acrid taste. The way a man yields control with every flick of my tongue.
It’s one of the most erotic experiences for me.
The other day, I found a new level of joy in this practice. My partner kneeled upright and straddled my face, while I lay on my back underneath him. This way I could work the underbelly of his head, as well as delight in the gentle curve where his shaft met his testicles.
It was exquisite. Licking his balls while stroking him with my hands, I felt like I was at an endless buffet. He slipped his fingers in my pussy, pressing up, warming and wetting me, as I reached around to finger his asshole.
The more turned-on I got, the more I wanted him in my mouth.
I wanted him to fuck the back of my throat.
My back arched as my pussy reached for his hands. His fingers slipped in and out in sync with his own hips. It was as if his cock reached down my throat and made direct contact with my clit. The gagging, the spitting, the squirting – it was all an orgiastic delight that made me hungry for him. I wanted him more and more inside of me. I wanted to devour him.
Until I couldn’t take anymore. I cried out, my eyes rolled back and my whole body rocked and rippled in the choked agony of climax. I was in bliss.
There is an exquisite joy in sucking a man’s cock – something that I think more people could experience if we can let go of the idea that a man has power over us if we go down on him. Nothing could be further from the truth.
It takes an incredible amount of trust and surrender for a man to properly receive your mouth.
I suggest we give up the power struggle, admit our resentments, forgive each other and get back to the good, old-fashioned joy of fellatio.
And so, dear ones, I offer you …
3 delicious tips to help you discover the joy of sucking cock.
#1 Do it because you like it.
The moment you start doing it because you want him to think you’re nice or because he ate your pussy or bought you dinner, you are LYING, and therefore creating a barrier between yourself and your own (and his) pleasure.
Truth is always the biggest turn-on, so if you aren’t feeling it, that’s OK.
It’s always best to move from your own pleasure. You will know the difference and he will definitely feel the difference.
And the same goes for how you are sucking his cock. There are 1001 techniques (some helpful, some moronic) on how to give head, but if you are caught in the owner’s manual, you aren’t actually feeling him and you certainly aren’t surrendering into your own joy. Plus, your unbridled enthusiasm is what he wants most. So stay connected to what gives you the most pleasure in your own mouth and continue from there.
#2 Slow down.
Many women and men make the mistake of grabbing someone’s dick and going to town like a spasmodic porn star. But that’s usually no fun for most people. Imagine someone grabbing you and thrusting away without any warm up.
So take your time. Feel his curves. Invite him out to play. Discover him.
There is so much to be experienced in the in-between spaces. Maybe you don’t even start with his cock, but gently kiss your way up from his feet to his thighs. Your honest and curious exploration will help keep your attention on him, but we usually need to start slow to stay present.
Remember: the longer the anticipation, the sweeter the gratification.
#3 Communicate, communicate, communicate.
Did I mention communicate? It is so important, for everyone’s pleasure, that you remain in constant dialogue regarding your and your partner’s desires (just don’t talk with your mouth full).
Maybe you don’t want him to cum in your mouth. Tell him that ahead of time. Ask him if he has any areas he doesn’t want touched. Maybe you’d like him to wash up before you put your mouth on him. Maybe you need to work a little around his foreskin before pulling it down and exposing him (if he’s uncircumcised).
Whatever’s on your mind, say it – and invite him to do the same. As I said before, the truth is the biggest turn-on. And when you know each other’s boundaries and desires, you both can easily relax into the experience and delight in the joy of sucking cock.
#4 BONUS TIP!
Not so much a tip but just a gentle reminder to …
A: lube up (saliva or coconut oil work great) and
B: cover your teeth with your lips at all times (needs no explanation).
HAPPY COCK SUCKING!
Candice Holdorf
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