Oh love, why do you blame yourself for all that others have going on?
Why do you take responsibility for their emotions,
their happiness, their joy?
Why do you stand there in all your power and let them deplete you so that they can feel stable yet again?
Oh love, this does nothing for you.
And even though it may appear for some split second that you are helping those you care about to be better,
you are not truly assisting them.
You teach them nothing by your soothing of what is not yours to soothe.
And you know at your core how dangerous this soothing can be for your own well being,
and for the relationship as well.
But, it is hard to not try and fix.
It is difficult to say no.
It feels harsh to state the truth,
that it is NOT your responsibility for their whirlwind emotions.
For their ebbs and flows.
Their highs and lows.
Their over thinking and worry.
Sure you can change who you are.
You can say things as that they want to hear.
You can pretend to be a way that is not in truth to your soul.
And you can pretend.
You can be that pretender and give them the “love” that they think is love and think they want from you.
That they deserve,
or that you should do if you truly cared.
Truly loved them.
You could change every facit of yourself to meet the needs of another,
and at the end of your attempts you would discover that they were still lost and now you are too.
And that is all that you would give them.
The loss of who you are.
The loss of your own soul
and direction.
And you too my love,
would then be like those that want this of us.
Lost, sad and masking.
Afraid to look deep within.
And find what all of us must, ‘if we are to discover our truth,
our happiness.
That my love is the simple, harsh reality.
That no one on this planet is here to please another,
other than the self.
It is not your life requirement,
to be responsible for another’s peace of mind,
happiness or feeling love.
Just like it is not up to them to do this for you.
These things are ONLY found from within.
And until they are found,
by the seeker himself,
deep within the caverns of their own mind and heart,
they will never feel complete,
never feel safe or without worry.
They will continue to question the love offered,
and look for every reason that it is not correct.
Yes my love,
it is the truth of this matter,
that no matter how much you love another,
no matter how much you show up in truth,
no matter how much you give of self,
that you can never heal another.
You can never save them from their own demons.
As false as they may be to you,
these fears will continue to arise,
until they learn how to shine the light into their own darkness,
to soothe their own fears without destroying the world around them,
and embrace that love that they believe they feel for you,
because that love is what is inside awaiting them.
That love for you my dear,
is only a sign of the greatness of love that they have for self once uncovered and embraced in its glory.
And it is this love that must be triggered from within and seen for it’s truth.
It is this peace,
this joy,
this feeling of bliss and freedom,
that we experience in our relating that we must see for what it is.
It is HERE.
HERE with us always.
It has NOTHING to do with another.
It has EVERYTHING to do with self.
The relationship is but only awakening us to it.
But, we never loose it.
We are never without it.
And we are most certainly never responsible for managing another’s emotional or mental state.
No, my love.
It is not your concern.
It does not mean you are bad.
Or evil.
Or not loving.
It simply means that you hold priority for the most valuable person in your life.
That person who looks back at you from the mirror.
So keep stating your truth.
Keep sharing your heart ,
and your soul.
Never allow another,
no matter how far they crash,
to steal you from yourself,
in hopes of saving them.
You are worth so much love my dear.
You are worth all that you carry in your heart.
A thousand lifetimes worth.
So step forward in faith my love,
Step forward and keep CLAIMING YOU!
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”