👊👊💥4 TYPES OF MEN THAT WILL NEVER MAKE YOU A PRIORITY💥👊
This bit of relationship reality can pertain to both sexes, however I will be addressing it toward the women looking for love and commitment with a man.
👉👉👉SO YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW TO STOP BEING AN OPTION TO HIM?
The simple answer would be, ‘BE A MF HIGH VALUE WOMAN!’
I mean that’s what a lot of relationship coaches will tell you.
Just lean into your feminine. Relying on the man to do it all will never work, it will however land you in the middle of heartbreak over and over again. You cannot rely on the man to vet the relationship. You as the woman MUST do your inquiry on the front side and take full responsibility for figuring out if he is one of these four types of men or not. If you truly want to find love and commitment then before you ever meet you need to explore who he is and how aligned you really are.
You see our world supports swipe dating and this sort of dating desensitizes us to actual connection to another human being.
It focuses us on attraction instead of values, how our lives may blend together or not and if a person is emotionally mature.
When we focus on attraction we get caught up in the idea that the most valuable thing is chemistry and if you have chemistry then love will solve all other challenges.
👊👊🥰LOVE DOES NOT SOLVE RELATIONSHIP WOES!🥰👊👊
Sorry to break it to you beautiful, but love is not the answer to everything, as wonderful as it may sound. 👉What solves issues in relationship is emotional maturity and alignment. 👈
And there is a major difference between emotional maturity and being in touch with your emotions. That is a whole other conversation however, and if you want more in depth coaching on how to discover the difference as well as to develop your own emotional maturity to call in aligned matches, reach out to me in the comments or privately. This is my expertise.
Your hyper focus on chemistry is killing your vetting game!
Unfortunately, both sexes are walking into the dating realm looking for the generalized idea of what they deem love and commitment. However, they have no real intentionality in their exploration, meaning they are not being conscious about, “Who is really compatible with me? or What sort of questions should I be asking before I give my heart/solitude/space in my life away? And how do I know if this person is emotionally mature?”
The concept of , “Time will tell.” is not something that many people really want to invest in and with good reason. For the majority of the singles who are over forty-years-old, midlife dating means that they don’t want to waste time with bad eggs. However 75% of that bracket of singles looking for love are divorced. They have alimony, child support, visitation rights, family court stuff, erectile dysfunction, menopause, job issues, retirement fears, and elderly parents just to name a few things. A completely different set of challenges than those in their twenties and thirties and if you are a midlifer they you get it.
EVEN MORE IMPORTANT TO FIND ALIGNMENT AND EMOTIONAL MATURITY THEN JUST LOOKING FOR CHEMISTRY AND PHYSICAL ATTRACTION.
👉The idea that if we have mutual chemistry it will lead to love is false! 🤯
REALITY: Love only comes over time and life challenges that two people commit to overcome and support each other on.
You do not find love on a first, second, or even third date.
That feeling of love at first sight…
Yeah it’s actually lust or limerence.
You could say that love is earned.
Might sound conditional, because it most certainly is and should be on the front side. Giving your heart away so freely is naive and immature. It is not self-loving or respectful and it drives me crazy to hear so many ladies out there say, “I can’t help it… I have such a big heart and so much love. I wear my heart on my sleeve.”
Well ladies (and sensitive gents alike), if you are guilty of this, realize that you need to do a little bit of internal work and learn to love yourself enough to be clear with who you are and what you want and be emotionally strong and stable. This is a major piece to emotional maturity. Handing over your heart and love so easily will only cause you suffering.
👊👊💥 MUTUAL ATTRACTION DOES NOT MEAN THAT HE IS THE ONE FOR YOU!💥👊👊
He may take the lead and drop you into your feminine.
You may have that knee popping kiss that we see in movies and desire.
He may have all the right bullet points on the resume that you have created in your head.
And you may “feel this energy” that you just want to lose yourself into.
None of that means that he is your soulmate however.
None of it means that you are aligned or that he is emotionally mature.
Only going deep into inquiry, asking the right questions, being honest about your intentions around relationship will set the stage for you to better make an informed decision on if he is worth your time, energy, heart and sex.
Men can leap through many relationships far easier than women.
Understand that. They are designed to sow their seed. For the majority of women however, if they are wanting love and commitment not just a hookup where they remain armored up against true connection and unity, this sort of bouncing the spectrum with so many men will shatter them emotionally.
Leaving them feeling unwanted, not valued except for their sex, not lovable and as though they are always an option to the men they set their eye and heart on.
👉So what are the 4 types of men that will make you an option?
Being an option to someone means that you are not a priority.
Basically speaking, when someone is always too busy ( and we are all busy AF in our lives, especially us midlifers. ) They are saying, 💥”You are not important to me.”💥
You can always see where someone’s priorities are seated, because that is exactly where they will be investing their time, energy and heart. If you are looking for a relationship, a partnership for a lifetime and love, then realize that if you are not creating the space for it in your life then you really do not value it or want it.
👊The 4 Types of Men (or Women) Who will NEVER Make You A Priority Are: 👊
💥Men who lack purpose and/or passion. – The majority of our world goes to work each day. They identify themselves with their career but they hate what they do. They are not passionate about their work or what they are offering the world and this often goes hand in hand with purpose, because the purpose behind their work is simply to pay the bills. The issue with passionless and purposeless people is that they are suffering internally. They suffer from core identity, putting who they are as a career and a responsible person in place of truly knowing themselves. This translates to them typically having destructive behaviors because they lack core foundation and THAT makes them incapable of creating a healthy foundation in a relationship as well. When a person lacks passion/purpose you may see it come out in the use of drugs and alcohol, they may date excessively, become sexaholics or even develop avoidant personalities.
👊👊💥REALIZE THIS: EXCESSIVE DATING AND A NEED TO BE AROUND PEOPLE OR HAVE SEX EXCESSIVELY IS A FORM OF SELF-MEDICATION.💥👊👊
These sort of men will never make you a priority because they are lost in who they are at a core level. Our passions and purpose can and will change/transform through our lives, however if we do not know who we are we are not ready for authentic love, relationship or soulmate partnership.
💥Men who have a bunch of chaos going in their life. – (Job issues, health, financial, child issues, family, etc.). This might seem like the net you want to cast to meet someone just shrank incredibly, especially for all the midlifers out there. I am not saying to totally disregard these men and not date them, just don’t get caught up in the web of believing that you can “fix them” and if you do fix them that they will be yours and love will heal it all. Those of you who want to always fix someone, are falling into the idea that things will change, you are making excuses for your partners behaviors and attitudes, for their immaturity. Realize that you will only exhaust yourself. Don’t get made at the fact that you are the one choosing these projects only to discover that you are beating your head against a brick wall.
👊👊💥STOP BEING IN RELATIONSHIP WITH A PROJECT!💥👊👊
You want to play and learn yourself with a project? FINE.
You want to learn about your likes, dislikes, needs and desires with a project? FINE.
But if you are just getting to know someone and they are project central, then get real with yourself and don’t give your heart away.
We can all be projects at times in our lives.
We can all have a bunch of chaos blossom in our lives.
Alignment and emotional maturity however, will show you if you are in a constant construction sight, where the person you have set your eye on is willing and able to build something or not. And from here you can make a decision if you want to support and grow together or if you need to look elsewhere.
💥A man who is set in his ways. -Typically this happens as we age. People who are older, who have not been in any or very few or limited significant primary relationships to any degree can become VERY set in their ways which means that they are set in how they do life ALONE, making it a challenge to put someone else, especially on the front side of learning each other, as a priority. They may also suffer from a lack of emotional immaturity because they have not had the relationship challenges and lessons as others.
💥A casual relationship man who offers/request monogamy/exclusivity out the gates but has no real desire to be in a committed relationship. – This is a bit harder to identify than the others, because we believe that making a request or offering up exclusivity is a sign of commitment and desire to explore a relationship. However, that is not always the case and you will often find that one or more of the other items will come into play with this person, from above.
You must understand what commitment means if you are wanting it, and realize that it is not exclusivity. Nor does it come right away… commitment comes with love.
👉LOOK AT THE TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE VOWS IF YOU WANT A GOOD DEFINITION OF WHAT COMMITMENT IS.👈
Commitment means, “I’ve got your back!”
For better or worse.
In sickness and health.
Richer or poorer.
If you are not willing to wipe the puke off of someone’s face, sit by their bedside in a hospital room for weeks/months on end, support them in a time of financial strife, etc. then you are not committed!
You have to want and be willing to commit to all the shiz that comes with someone else when you get into a real authentic relationship and encompass all of what it means to be partners in life.
This alone takes courage, emotional maturity, and commitment to the relationship.
Of course loves plays a significant role,
and love grows the commitment.
However as long as you stay focused on being wined and dined, romanced and following the energy, the lure of someone’s physical appearance and the chemistry you have in the moment that feels so hot and yummy, YOU WILL NOT BE A PRIORITY TO WHOMEVER THIS OTHER PERSON IS.
Get aligned to yourself!
Set your intentions in what you want in a relationship.
Ask the right questions before you have sex, open your heart up and let all the butterflies in your tummy loose.
🌹BEFORE YOU PUT THOSE ROSE TINTED GLASSES ON – INQUIRE, INQUIRE, INQUIRE ON IF THIS PERSON IS THE MOST COMPATIBLE FOR YOU.🌹
And if you want some help learning those questions to ask,
on developing your core and loving yourself into a place of commanding in respect, and being valued to a level of being someone’s priority, then reach out to me today. Its my passion and purpose to help people like you find their soulmate relationship and thrive in abundance.
Loving you from here.
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