WE ARE THE ONLY SPECIES THAT WANTS TO GO AGAINST OUR BIOLOGY.
Well, mostly we women that is.
Guys will claim THIS, but somewhere inside they get it is not so, they know that they claim it to just keep that doorway there,
where we women tend to want to disregard, ignore and act as though we are above our biology.
It was not that long ago that I was one of these women myself.
I thought that I could manage it.
I truly believed that I could have the relationship and it just be what I was calling it and that both parties were feeling the same way.
I believed that we were elevated in consciousness to the level that sexual desire did not play a role and that I could seriously “just be friends” with my male friends and that they were down for it just being that and even wanted just that.
THEN I came into the awareness that most if not all of my male friends were actually attracted to me and that if given the opportunity would happily walk through the door of a sexual encounter with me. So I justified the friendship by saying that they respected me and my wishes and that it was manageable.
I came to terms, with if a guy was hanging out in my life as a friend of some nature that he most likely wanted to bed me and I then believed that that was just the way it was and I had to accept it, but could still have the friendships, just needed to be aware.
After all, I am one of those women who has never not had a male friendship since I was 2 – years old.
I have had far more “good” friendships with men than with women over the course of my life.
The thought of giving up my male friendships pained me.
Feeling as though I would have no one left in my true friendship circle if I dumped the guys.
Then I had a few conversations with my son’s who are grown and almost grown, with some of these male friends, with male clients and even with my man.
Their shares can be summed up here,
“Why would I hang out with a female if I was not attracted to her? If I wanted to hang out for all the reasons we guys hang out and do what we guys do, then I would certainly choose to hang out with a guy friend, not a female.”
They all came back with, if they were hanging with a female there were desires to be with her intimately.
And I started to really allow myself to feel this.
To get right with male/female relating.
I looked at my conversations, my shared moments with the majority of my male friends and saw the intimateness.
Sure there was no sex, there was no kissing or intimate touch, but we certainly did share intimacy. Only the kind of intimacy that you can get from the opposite sex.
There was even a flirtiness at times.
Beautiful as it is, it is ground that is not stable.
And no matter how respectful and loyal a male friend can be to us women, if given the opportunity to have a door crack open and him get a chance to be with us, he will.
Meaning that if you are a committed woman, in any label of relationship out there (and I have been under a few labels over the course of the last two decades) that if you are pissed, upset, feeling disconnected in any fashion or form with YOUR MAN, and you share confidence with a male friend, know that you are cracking a door open.
If you are a single woman and you have guy friends,
and believe that they can maintain without issues,
understand first you are almost being cruel to the men in your life,
because without realizing it you are teasing them.
Yes just by being you.
Just by doing you.
If you want to be taken on dates,
experience the male energy,
etc. then perhaps looking at doing just that is the answer.
GO ON A DATE.
And realize that often the best romantic and intimate relationships are based in friendship.
The fact that you think of a man as a good friend,
If you have a trust, a vulnerability there, a fun playfulness with your male friend and you are both open to a relationship that is of more than your pseudo friendship, then maybe the universe has already blessed you with a wonderful man to explore in a romantic fashion.
If you are good with just “managing” these male relationships and keeping them at bay in some fashion, ask yourself:
💃 What am I really gaining from this friendship or looking for with it if I know that he wants me sexually but is just holding back because of what I have stated the boundaries are?
💃 How can this male friendship impact (positively /negatively) an intimate relationship I am in or want to be in?
💃 If I was in an intimate relationship with someone and they were having deep conversations, moments and connections of a vulnerable/intimate yet non-sexual version with another woman frequently what sort of impact would that have on the relationship? Emotionally? Physically?Energetically?
💃 What does significant other or primary relationship mean to me and how does opposite sex relationships outside of this hinder or support?
Now, I know what you might be feeling.
You may say, that is such an emotionally immature way of looking at relationships.
You may say that a “conscious man” is above this.
You may say that there is zero harm from being flirty with your male friends, no matter if you are in a romantic relationship or not with someone else.
You may actually believe and point to lifelong friendships that have never let you down and you are certain that they are “just a brother” to you.
I have thought all of this.
I have believed all of this.
And repeatedly been blown out of the water from these.
We cannot deny our biology.
Men are men.
Women are women.
And we relate differently.
We bond differently.
Men love boobs, booty, legs, hair, our eyes and are wanting to explore us inside and out.
They will smile, chat it up, be helpful and drive from a state away to to show us how much they want to give us their attention.
They will support us in the worst of times.
They will applaud us in the best of times.
And they mean it.
But they still want the woman that stands before them.
They would not be putting their attention on us if they did not desire us in some fashion.
This is why so many men fall in the face of a woman’s attention.
Wars have been based, fought and won for the chance to be with a woman.
It’s just biology.
We women need to get right with it and stop being silly,
thinking that it’s harmless however.
Time to level up your relating.
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“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
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👉👉👉CAN A MAN BE THE BEST WEIGHT MANAGEMENT SYSTEM, SLEEP AGENT AND STRESS REDUCER OUT THERE?
The right man certainly can be.🤯
Today I speak to all the 👑queens out there who look in the mirror, do those little sidewards poses sucking in your tummies, checkin’ out how the booty looks in those pants, if the “girls” are perky looking today or if you need to grab the extra support bra. How your eyes look. Are you needing extra concealer, are the lines, soft wrinkles and exhaustion from life showing up to boldly or…💃💃💃
Today I am sharing a revelation with you that I have witnessed over the course of time in different ways in my own personal life and with friends and clients alike.
But when I tell you that from a VERY personal and real level, I have never been through such a beautiful transformation as the one that I am in currently in and it all stems from the love of the right man. Now, don’t get me wrong here…
it’s not actually his action of love that is doing anything.
Its not a massive amount of sex.
It’s not really anything other than I can put down all my armour with him and surrender.
Did you catch that big scary word that most queens do not like to speak outloud?
Lay down our armour?🦸♀️
Put down the shields and sword?⚔️
Trust the MF masculine?
I know, I have gone off the deep end for some of you ladies out there. In todays time when we women are able to be self-sufficent and not need relationship, just have the sex we want, when we want and live our lives without the bartering with a man, the concept of surrendering to the masculine seems shear ludicrous and crazy.
I get it.
But are you fulfilled?
Sure you may believe that you are.
You got the career, the kids, the house, the money, the “freedom” but where do you allow yourself to be held?
Where do you allow your softness as the feminine to be revealed?
And if you are a coupled queen, do you truly let your king shine as a man or do you constantly overthrow his throne with your fear of being controlled by him?
Do you in essence cuckold your man?😲🤔🤯
You “give him sex” but you do not actually receive him or let him receive you?
Coupled or single,
What we desire in a relationship on both sides of the coin is connection.
Put simply connection DOES NOT come from two physical bodies engaging in sex or physical touch.
Connection comes from emotional bonding and trust.
Connection comes from being able to embody one’s self with deep presence and thus can actually feel at an emotional and energetic level their partner.
They are willing to reveal themselves fully.
They are willing to be seen authentically.
They are willing to be naked in every way with their lover.
These things can NEVER be achieved with our armour up.
These things cannot happen without surrender from our deepest heart center with our lover.
And as long as we choose to uphold that emotional/energetic armour in our sexing, in our relationships, with our intimacy we will also bear the effects of the armour which are actual weight of the physical body.
Stress of the mind.
Emotional overload and imbalances.
We will not be able to lay our heads down and truly rest.
Because the weight of life,
the guarding of our hearts,
and the exhaustion of us “acting out a role for survival” will only create restlessness of our souls.
When we enter a soulmate relationship,
a union with our true significant other we have zero desire to hold onto our swords and weapons. We do not want barriers to our heart.
👊👊👊We want UNION.
Zero space between.
And when we truly enter a relationship of this divine nature we also reap the rewards here in the physical if we are willing to surrender to this sort of depth and authentic connection in love.
WE STAND NAKED IN EVERY WAY BEFORE OUR SOULMATE.
And here we find our truest freedom.
Our most unbound love.
We discover who we really are,
and we open ourselves to him.
And he as a heart centered man,
strong in his masculine and purpose driven in his life understands that the way he penetrates your heart as his queen is also how he penetrates his world.
He must lean fully into your gates in love and trust of the feminine or he his lack of surrender will be felt and you will not be able to trust him.
However you my dear queen must remember that it is a two way street ALWAYS.
If you as a woman refuse to trust yourself,
if you refuse to get out of your mind space,
If you refuse to speak your truth,
if you refuse to take responsibility for your emotions, your orgasms, your choices, your triggers and your fear,
then he cannot lean into your gates in trust.
A king cannot lead his queen to the most delicious moments of connection and intimacy if his queen does not respect him in his masculine. And a queen can never respect a king who does not know whom he is and who has healthy boundaries and a stable heart center.
So can a man be the best weight management system, sleep agent and stress reducer out there?
Yes the right man certainly can.
The right man + the right woman can conquer their world together.
They will thrive and live unbound in their love.
They will be healthy physically, emotionally, sexually, financially and spiritually.
Unfortunately it is my opinion from my over two decades of working with couples that the harsh reality is that about 85% of unions are not soul based but need based.
And it shows my dear queen in your face.
In your eyes.
In your body.
In how you speak of yourself.
In how you show up in your life.
I love you beautiful.
You are worthy of a king that is worthy of you.
But you have to first want to find him and then be willing to lay down your armour.
Loving you from 18 pounds lighter, radiance in my face and eyes, a good night’s sleep in my mans arms and lovin’ the skin I am in with a surrendered heart to my King 👑
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Queens let’s chat about getting you back into your rightful throne.
Based in that beautiful heart center, let me show you the steps to putting down the armour with your soulmate or how to call in your soulmate if that’s where you are at and how to fully become embodied in love and orgasm today.
OUR TRUST IS BUILT ON THE FOUNDATION OF TRUTH…
But is that true?
We would like to believe that it is just this way,
however if we are honest with ourselves there is something that is so much more rare, more important and powerful in letting us know that we can trust someone…
All relationships need trust in order to be successful.
For us to open to love fully,
to surrender our deepest hearts to another,
to open our bodies to pleasure with our mate,
or to reveal our pain,
we must have TRUST.
Through the course of time and engagement with different people in different relationships we learn that trust is hard to have.
We discover that many people all though they “think” themselves trustworthy, believe that they are worthy of being trusted and that their actions and words support that more than often it is not so.
More frequently then not we learn that those that we trust in are acting from a self-centered aspect only giving of themselves and speaking out of a desire to receive and therefore will make themselves into anything needed to be perceived as steadfast and true.
But a person who does not know themselves,
who is not able to be true to their own thoughts, feelings and needs and is willing to “pretend” or mask is a person that is far from trustworthy.
Only when we can stand firm in self,
uneeding of anyone else to affirm to us that we are good, loveable, worthy, trustworthy, etc. can we be true to someone else.
And that is what we are wanting in our relationships.
Especially in our most intimate primary love relationships.
We want to know that our partner is true.
We want to know that if the sh*t were to hit the fan that they are there for us, no matter.
We want to know that they have our backs in battle and in love.
We want to know that even if they do not agree with us that they value the relationship more than they value being right or making a point.
We want ROCK SOLID.
And rock solid comes from unshakable trust in each other.
Trust is established, built and supported not by truth but by support of each other despite opinions, beliefs and even truth.
Trust must come from a harmony of knowing that we are supported fully but also that our partner will be honest with us.
Meaning that they will always share their feelings and thoughts around things no matter how different or challenging, but will not allow for those feelings and thoughts to take center stage and offset the unity and foundation of the relationship.
There must be an understanding that there is a difference between truth and honesty.
Truth is subject to one’s own perception and experiences and then made into a fact unless scientifically revealed. Even our own truth in history is subject to opinion and written by those who conquered for the most part. Often truth is based in a need to be right or to set something straight.
Where honesty, although still subject to one’s own perceptions and experience is a sharing of our core views, beliefs and feelings. True honesty is based on surrender and trust of being received.
OUR TRUST IS BUILT ON SUPPORT.
If you know that you cannot fall, how far can you go in life?
What sort of life challenges can you overcome?
If you know that there is no goodbye in your relationship, how deep can you surrender to your soul and into the revealing of it with another?
If you know that even if you are wrong in a choice or opinion that your back is had in every turn without question, how much more powerful and even able to hear and see the truth could you be?
Trust equals freedom to be you and surrender fully into the relationship.
How are you showing up for your love?
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
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WHEN I MAKE LOVE TO YOU.
I make love to me as well.
You open me to depths of my soul that no other has even come close.
I witness my joy,
all in your arms,
and I feel carried in your presence.
As you look at me,
with eyes on fire with passion and admiration,
I feel the sweetness of your heart,
as well as its hunger.
When my breasts touch your chest,
and you pull me closer,
I feel decades passing through us.
There is no time nor space,
it is but only the here and now.
As you enter my body with yours,
I breathe deep with anticipation,
I feel athirst for your nectors that feed my soul.
My chest expands as I surrender,
at your hand,
I am breathless with your touch.
My eagerness to be taken by you is never ending.
My body aches and yearns for your devouring.
And as you breathe,
my flesh tingles,
my mouth waters,
and I am wet.
I am now the ravenous one.
And you are my home.
To all my followers who crave a relationship, a love that penetrates them to their core.
Yearning for the entwinement with “the one” that twin soul, that soulmate, that knows you beyond words or life memories of this time.
These are the images, the feelings and vibrations that we were born to expereince and we are in search for in our love, in our sex, in our relating. We do not hunger for surface level, superficial relationships, no matter how often we choose to settle for them.
What we desire is the fulfillment of what we know is our home.
And you my dear follower/reader can have just this.
But how you may wonder?
If you currently are not looking into the eyes of home, ‘then how can you call that sort of love in?
It’s all about authenticity and integrity with self.
It’s all about loving self beyond your darkness and mistakes.
It’s all about KNOWING that YOU ARE WORTHY,
worthy of this connection.
And in these things your vibrations will meet.
And you too my dear will experience home.
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
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