Something hardly anyone knows is that when I was a teenager my high-school boyfriend was named Ken.
I was a tiny little thing back then, with dyed blond hair and often got referred to as Barbie. Together people, including family said, “Hey its Barbie and Ken!”
Today, I am not as tiny in figure (thank goodness, the 115 lb. version literally got knocked down by the wind) but I still have the dyed blond hair and blue eyes, along with the courage and desire to be whatever I choose to be in this world.
I’ve long graduated from the “Ken doll” variety of partners in my life and upgraded to a real man who upholds boundaries for himself and me, is supportive beyond measure (literally in deep appreciation for this man who is amazing!!!!), deeply compassionate and authentically himself. He certainly is teaching me daily about what a real and good man can do for the woman that he loves and wants to provide and protect for.
But, back to walking in the shoes of Barbie.
Yes, like many women who grew up with Barbie and all the career roles that she showed us that we could have and be, I also feel all the pressures of being a WOMAN.
Craig and I watched the Barbie movie about a month ago now. I was curious about what all the talk was, and we opted to watch it over Oppenheimer, which is still on our need to watch list today.
I wanted to see what his views would be about the movie and how it showed men and women. I wanted to see how I felt about all of it as well, and truly the big reason for my longing was based on a post I read on social media from a man that shared some amazing insights and how he felt in viewing it and being a man and a father to a girl.
I must say that anyone who is getting caught up about the storyline and it focused on Barbie needs to check themselves as it’s a story about a doll, and it’s about “her” tale and that needs to be center stage. Ken was never the focus. It was not Ken and Barbie, but Barbie and Ken. So, getting your panties in a bundle about it being focused on female power and dreams and Ken and any other male counterparts not being center of attention or even appearing silly, just shows that you did not understand the beginning of the story. If you want a story about male power and struggle let’s talk G.I. Joe or Masters of the Universe.
However, it still shares so much about what women and men go through in life, love and relationship.
The line in the movie at the end that brough a tear to my eye was, “We mothers stand still so our daughters can look back and see how far they have come.”
Having three daughters of my own who are all grown women now, I could not have said this better. Absolutely, to some degree we mothers do stand still so our daughters can see how far they have come, but in the same it is our duty as mothers to never back down, to never give up and to always lead our daughters and sons in loving compassion and courage.
“Barbie is a doctor, and a lawyer, and so much more than that.”
And that is what modern women are doing and leading for themselves and for their children.
But with all of this strength, power and leadership we also discovering, “It is literally impossible to be a woman.”
“You have to be thin, but not too thin.”
“And you can never say you want to be thin.”
“You have to say you want to be healthy, but also you have to be thin.”
“You have to have money, but you can’t ask for money because that’s crass.”
“You have to be a boss, but you can’t be mean.”
“You have to lead, but you can’t squash other people’s ideas.”
“You’re supposed to love being a mother but don’t talk about your kids all the damn time.”
“You have to be a career woman, but also always be looking out for other people.”
“You have to answer for men’s bad behavior, which is insane, but if you point that out, you’re accused of complaining.”
“You’re supposed to stay pretty for men, but not so pretty that you tempt them too much or that you threaten other women because you’re supposed to be a part of the sisterhood.”
…and so much more!!!!
truly what every woman feels and goes through daily in her life.
Barbie, a cultural icon for generations of girls, has always embodied the aspirations and dreams of young women. Her journey through various careers and adventures reflects the evolving roles and experiences of women in society. Now let’s explore the experiences and challenges that women face from the unique perspective of Barbie, shedding light on the ways her character can help us better understand the complexities of the female experience.
One of the remarkable aspects of Barbie’s character is her versatility. She has been an astronaut, doctor, engineer, chef, and more. From a Barbie perspective, women can relate to the desire to explore diverse careers and break traditional gender roles. Barbie teaches that women can pursue any profession they are passionate about, breaking through societal expectations and glass ceilings.
Barbie dolls come in various skin tones, body types, and hairstyles, reflecting the diversity of women’s appearances and identities. This inclusivity reminds women that there is no one-size-fits-all definition of beauty or femininity. Embracing one’s individuality and unique qualities is a powerful message that Barbie conveys, promoting self-acceptance and confidence among women.
Throughout Barbie’s adventures, she has always had a strong support system of friends. This emphasizes the importance of female friendships and the bonds that women share. Barbie shows that women can rely on one another, empower each other, and navigate life’s ups and downs together.
Barbie’s experiences with her family, whether as a sister, daughter, or niece, reflect the various roles women play within their own families. Women often balance caregiving, nurturing, and support for their loved ones while pursuing their own ambitions. Barbie reminds us that navigating family dynamics can be both rewarding and challenging.
“We sell dreams, imagination, and sparkle. And when you think of sparkle, what do you think of next? Female agency.”
Barbie’s determination to follow her dreams and achieve her goals serves as a source of inspiration for women. Women often face obstacles in their personal and professional lives, but Barbie’s perseverance teaches that resilience and determination can lead to success.
When we look at Barbie and love, well here we see that she is at first just fulfilling the role provided to her, but then as the movie moves forward Barbie starts to speak her truth and how she really does not feel about Ken the way everyone wants her too, including Ken.
And that’s okay!
Barbie’s journey encourages the idea that authentic love begins with self-acceptance. Just as Barbie comes in various forms, from different careers to diverse appearances, she teaches us that embracing our true selves is the foundation for building meaningful relationships. Authenticity attracts authentic love.
Barbie’s experiences underscore the value of open and honest communication. Effective communication, coupled with emotional intelligence, is vital for understanding, empathy, and resolving conflicts in relationships. Barbie’s ability to communicate with friends, family, and potential partners sets a positive example.
Barbie’s journey also includes various romantic interests, showcasing the joys and complexities of dating. Her relationships with characters like Ken and Blaine teach us that love often involves compromise, patience, and mutual respect. Barbie’s romantic endeavors remind us that finding the right partner may take time, but it’s worth the effort.
Barbie, with her diverse experiences and vibrant personality, offers valuable insights into the realm of love and intimacy. Her emphasis on authenticity, building strong friendships, effective communication, and balancing personal and professional life underscores the complexity of modern relationships. Barbie’s journey serves as a reminder that love is a journey of self-discovery, patience, and growth, ultimately leading to the fulfillment of our most intimate desires. In embracing these lessons, we can all navigate the path to true and intimate relationships with grace and wisdom.
And above all else, yeah, we women want to sparkle, be pretty, change our outfits as much as we want and be whomever our hearts desire, standing in our own power but with a man who wants to support us for being just who we are authentically each day.
Somewhere between the Ken and Allen dolls is Mr. Perfect – and I know that I have found mine!
I would love to hear your thoughts on the new Barbie movie, this is just a few from a girl who used to have hundreds of Barbies in her collection and played faithfully with them till the ripe old age of thirteen…
Still Barbie at heart here. 
Drop Your thoughts in the comments below.