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STOP BEING A YES WHORE.

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STOP BEING A YES WHORE.

Wow! Kendal that is a harsh statement for a Friday morning.

What do you mean by, “Yes Whore?”

You are guilty beautiful of doing just this.
I am guilty too.
There is not a soul on this planet that has not fallen into the illusion of being a yes whore and believing that it is the road to our happiness.

Every time you say YES to someone and you actually mean NO, you are in an essence whoring yourself out and dishonoring self and the relationship that you are YESSING all over.

Every time that inauthentic YES pops out of your mouth and you find yourself swallowing your own needs, desires, ideas, and value because you feel that you “should” do this or that to be a nice person, to be helpful, to offer support, to show you love, etc. etc.

You sabotage yourself!
You sabotage the relationship.
And you loose respect.

I have been in the business of relationship coaching in one facet or another for two decades now and the one thing that I hear repeatedly is, ” I can’t say no, that would be mean.”

“He is my husband… I love him, I can’t say no.”
“She is so sweet and working so hard, she needs this/needs me… I can’t say no.”
“They are really struggling right now, I can’t say no.”
“They need me.”
“I don’t know how I am going to do it but I can’t say no.”

And following these wonderful words of what seem’s like love and support come…

” I am so exhausted, I just don’t have anything left to give, why can’t they/he/she see that?”

“I just feel like a all people ever want me for is ___________________.”

“You know, I have had it… I have been busting myself open here, doing everything I can, to show how much I care and I ask for one small thing and get told no after everything that I have done.”

“Doesn’t he/she see that I really don’t want to do that/feel like it?

“I would be all alone if I said what I really want or need.”

These and so many other things in so many subjects of our lives.

Just think about all the moments that you actually wanted to respond with NO but opted to say yes because you did not want to hurt the relationship, the other persons feelings or damage your value in the relationship.

Think of all those moments that if you get real with yourself you answered YES because you were answering out of fear and/or lack of self-worth.

Well you see beautiful,
these are the times that you were whoring yourself out.

There is no honor or respect in being out of integrity and not being honest with your answer.

You answered YES in exchange for something that you wanted or needed. You put little value on what is so precious and worth so much in hopes that you could,
if but only for a short time,
buy someones love, time, appreciation,
so that you would feel good.

But the funny thing is,
much like a whore who is just selling off their sex and not looking for anything real, lasting or of value,
you find yourself having to consistently whore yourself out to the point of being used up just to get a taste of what you are actually wanting.
And much like the client of the whore who is trying to fill a void and is just buying the illusion of the intimacy and connection,
you are finding yourself feeling used, abused and alone.

The relationships that you are doing this with are the relationships that you need to GET REAL with yourself on.

If you want to experience true happiness.
If you want to be respected.
If you want to have that soulmate relationship based in love,
if you want to feel supported, safe, understood,
If you want to stop questioning yourself and the relationships that you have,
and just BE YOU-
and THRIVE.

if you want that F-ck YES! Life…

Well is starts by you STOPPING YOURSELF FROM BEING A YES WHORE.

The ONLY person you need to answer YES to ALWAYS….

Is YOU.

And you see, if you answer yes to you 100% of the time,
you will find that you will be living authentically and in integrity.
And guess what that means beautiful?

It means you will gain trust, respect, real love and support.
It means that you will NOT ALWAYS make someone else happy,
that you will respect and love yourself enough to know that you are not responsible for anyone else’s emotional response, mental thoughts or even physical actions.
It means that you will no longer be enabling another’s victim mindset in their unconscious maneuver to control you and feel loved themselves.

It means that you will be one step closer to manifesting the life that you are worthy of.

So Stop Being a YES WHORE and Release Yourself from That Which Binds You.

As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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It’s As Easy As Walking In Faith And Saying YES To SOUL.

You are doing it because you think you should.
You are doing it because you feel you have too.
You just keep doing the damn thing that you know at your core is nothing but pain and suffering,
causing you anxiety, holding you in stress and fear because you don’t know what else to do other than to keep doing it in hopes that something,
yes that something will change.
 
But things just don’t change.
Year after year,
there you are beautiful.
Just doing the thing.
As if life will get better,
all while you are hating on it.
All while you are stressing about it.
Fearful of what will be.
 
But you keep doing do it, don’t you?
And why?
 
Because that is what a responsible person does.
That is what society says that you must do.
That is why you went to college,
got that degree,
got this job.
 
Its so you can do the damn thing.
It has nothing to do with what you want.
It has nothing to do with what you enjoy,
what you feel called to do at your SOUL level.
But it has everything to do with what you “think”
you need to do,
based on what your mommy and daddy told you all those years ago.
What your teachers, pastors and media all said was true.
And now,
now you are living it.
Trying to enjoy that dream life that has nothing to do with your dreams at all.
But everything to do with what makes you hate on your days, your years and your life.
Living for the weekends, the holidays.
Yes you keep doing the damn thing because everyone is doing the damn thing.
And you look around and see that it is just this way.
So it must be so.
 
But something inside of you is calling you to question all of this.
Something inside of you is just not feeling like this is how God wanted you to live.
 
You feel different.
You feel unique.
But you feel silly for thinking that you could be something more than what you are.
And yet you do.
 
You hear that call from deep down with in.
It is calling you to do something more with your life,
it is yelling at you to be true to your SOUL.
It sounds crazy scary,
but you also are bit turned on to the idea that you could have your dreams.
That you can desire more.
That you are unique.
And that God wants more for you too.
 
It makes sense doesn’t it.
Sense that you were born to stand out.
Sense that you were born to step fully the f-ck into who you are.
Sense that God wants you,
yes YOU to listen to your soul.
And beautiful,
when you look in that mirror each morning,
what feels better to your heart and soul?
 
To look into those big eye’s of yours and see all that you have been hiding from, all that you have been denying for your life and self?
 
Or…
To see that light,
that power,
that creative spirit.
And see it all flying free.
Being true.
Being powerful.
Making it’s mark on this world of ours.
 
What does it feel like to say yes to yourself?
What does it feel like to step forward in certainty and faith that God has your back?
 
Just pause and sit with that for a moment love,
feel the power that runs through your being when you feel into living that sort of faith.
Feel the love that pours through your veins when you just let your heart be seen and felt.
It feel’s good.
Damn good, to be YOU.
 
Unlike doing that damn thing,
that damn thing that is stealing your life from you.
That has you hiding over there,
uncertain as to what move to make,
fearful of who you are.
Not knowing if you are good enough.
Second guessing your choices,
your life,
your everything.
 
Realize this though.
YOU can have it all.
You can live authentically in all areas of your life.
You don’t have to keep doing the damn things that are holding you in this suffering.
You, yes you can live that exceptional life.
That life that God see’s is for you,
that life that you are being called to.
Let yourself feel into living that life,
if not but just for this second in time.
Let yourself feel it.
Truly feel it.
And embrace it.
Now KNOW this love,
YOU have the power in this moment to make this your reality.
 
All you have to do, all you ever had to do was want it.
Want it bad enough to actually CLAIM IT.
Claiming this life that has always been yours,
might sound scary at first,
but I promise you this,
it will become addictive to live this way.
To say yes to yourself.
To live according to your authentic self.
Your SOUL.
You will find yourself living in blessings and wonder if you take this challenge.
But you have to want it.
You cannot do it just because it sounds cool.
Or because john, or Jim, Beth or Mary want you to want it.
No, the only way that you can CLAIM IT is to want it for yourself.
and allow yourself to have it.
Allow yourself to step forward,
and SAY YES.
 
You will stand out from the masses.
The crowds will look at you in judgment.
You will be questioned.
And many will try to knock you off of your alignment.
But if you stay true,
true to yourself,
then you will live that life of your dreams.
You will have all that your heart and soul have wanted for.
You will know what your purpose is,
and it will be birthed from your breath each day.
 
There will be no doubt,
that you are unique.
There will be no question that you were born for greatness.
Your life will be proof.
Your happiness contagious.
But, first you must DECIDE.
 
Which path do you take?
Do you remain on this path with the damn thing that you have been doing for all this time, that consistently gives you what you don’t want but keeps you safe?
 
or…
 
Do you dare and step on the path of SOUL and follow the calling from deep within, walk in FAITH and FINALLY say F-ck YES! To YOU?
 
The choice is yours,
it has always been so.
 
May you make the choice that makes you happy at your deepest cellular level.
 
Your are WORTH IT!
 
As always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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