HE IS NOT READY TO FALL IN LOVE & COMMIT IF….

👩‍❤️‍👨HE IS NOT READY TO FALL IN LOVE & COMMIT IF…
 
Put simply he is not ready to commit or able to fall in love till he pulls his head out of his a*s!
I have said for years to men and women alike that there is an unresounding pop that occurs for a man between the ages of 35 and 50 typically…
And that is when his head pops.
 
There is more to falling in love and committing than this though.
And what causes a man to have this “pop” anyway you may wonder?
 
Well to understand love and commitment we have to understand emotional maturity first
I recall sitting by the fireside while camping with my man last fall and we had a discussion about just this topic of emotional maturity as well as “box checks” a.k.a. common grounds between us or that are needed to have a united and strong partnership, which requires guess what?
 
Yep, emotional maturity!
 
EMOTIONAL MATURITY MEANS THAT YOU ARE NOT STUCK IN VICTIM OR RIGHTEOUS CONSCIOUSNESS.
 
And this simply is not the case for most men and women alike.
We are too caught up in our wounds and have not taken the time, nor do we have the desire to truly do the soul searching work to develop a strong core. We don’t do the damn work that is needed for self. The healing power of doing your own personal, spiritual, emotional, mental health work is beyond words, and it is required if you want to have a healthy partnership with someone and truly know that what you have is love and commitment.
 
But we are clueless about what love and commitment really are.
We believe that what men need (and women for that matter) to fall in love and commit is respect, appreciation, acceptance, connection and LOTS OF SEX.
Well especially men, right?
 
We as humans need all of these things.
They do not guarantee love, commitment and certainly not rock solid partnership.
In today’s world we get caught up on partnership meaning: connection and sex.
A commitment to be with someone exclusively.
Most of the time that means monogamous, however not always. There are a vast array of relationship labels today that are accepted, but the focus is exclusive “primary” partner, no matter the label. Monogamy and exclusivity DOES NOT equate to a committed partnership.
Ester Perel calls this epidemic of relationship, stable ambiguity. There is the appearance of stability and commitment in the relationship however the ambiguous part is,
“Where is the relationship going?”
 
And you cannot know where the relationship is going if you as a man cannot identify what commitment looks like. Until a man knows what his path to commitment looks like and what his end goal is in the vetting process of dating and relationship to get to partnership, he will remain frustrated in his efforts to find “the one,” and will break a few hearts along the way, leading women on that believed that they were “this one.”
 
Back to pulling your head out of your a*s and developing emotional maturity gents.
So typically a man needs a humbling life experience to have his head pop. This can be a marriage or significant relationship break up that causes financial strife, emotional pain. It can mean a health issue or the loss of a career, a home, or some other significant major obstacle that impacts him at a deeper level of soul where he starts to question life and ask for more from himself.
 
In a man’s early years and typically a first marriage scenario, men are looking for a wife AND mother to their children. They are looking for characteristics that are different from a man in middle life. By the time we are in our late thirties to early fifties, over 50% of the dating population is looking for partnership based on lifelong alignment. Wanting to know that someone wants to truly commit to having their back and love them no matter what happens. That they could be laying in bed dying from cancer and this other soul will be there every step of the way in love and wanting, not just willing to support them through it. Love them through it. They want more than just someone that is appealing to the eye. They want to trust them fully. And they are not willing to give up their hearts to anyone who is not proving to be worthy of their trust.
However they have to get out of victim and/or righteous consciousness to achieve these goals.
Simply put, male or female, if you are dating and someone in the first three dates goes into a b*tch sesh on their ex and how it was all their fault and the shiz that they did and how they were not at fault. They had no part in it. THAT IS A SERIOUS RED FLAG, that they are not emotionally mature. So they will not be able to have constructive arguments or see a viewpoint outside of their own. Until we can learn to own our part in every aspect of our life experiences, good and bad alike, we are not practicing emotional maturity and we do not know ourselves.
If a person is exhibiting entitlement, it means that they are caught up in the tunnel of ME,ME, ME land and they are going to be superficial and self-centered in their actions and needs. Creating an inability to truly connect, because you cannot trust a person stuck in such myopic attitudes.
 
Which is what a man needs to fall in love and commit….
A space to do so.
Men need to actually desire a partner not just a lover.
We humans tend to reach out for physical connection when we are not yet ready to receive love because we are in such pain and don’t believe that we are worthy of it, but crave it.
Creating a disharmony in ourselves and preventing a synergy for true partnership. There is no way a man can truly fall in love and commit if he is consistently in a space of pain and using some sort of self medication to overcome and mask it. This causes a man to become self-centered and selfish, not from a disingenuous place but from a tunnel vision place where he is unable to see past himself.
In midlife we are starving for connection and sex, however we are fearful of going deeper into relationship because we don’t know what partnership looks like in midlife. We don’t know how to harmonize and balance money, roles, responsibilities, ex-relationships, children, lifestyles, etc. We don’t know what it really means to be a partner in our midlife.
 
Men are driven by a desire to connect emotionally and physically with the feminine. Typically a man cannot kick back with his buds and discuss how he feels about things. He cannot get into his heart with other men and he desires the viewpoint of the feminine heart on such edgy matters as “feelings.” He also desires the female body and all your femininity.
This desire for connection and sex does not mean that a man is wanting partnership, however.
It means that he may be looking for a relationship, which is different from partnership as explained earlier with Perels labeling of this being stable ambiguity.
 
For a man to create the space to fall in love and commit, he must contemplate what he is really wanting outside of connection and sex.
 
Sadly, the majority of men and women alike NEVER give this much thought.
Which is what we see showing up in relationships by all the surface level relating and doing the bare minimum to maintain the relationship, which is also a major culprit to why so many marriages fail.
 
And so we come back to understanding what TRUE PARTNERSHIP is.
Until a man can identify and understand what true partnership is, outside of dating and relationship he will not be able to fall in love and commit.
 
He MUST KNOW what he wants outside of connection and sex.
And he must understand his path to achieve it.
 
It is a s simple and complex as that.
Until he reaches that space inside of himself where he want to trust a woman with his heart and desires to have her there to have and to hold, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part…
 
He will not be able to pledge his faith, his heart, his commitment and he will not claim her as his love.
 
And she will feel it.
She will question his love and commitment to her.
 
True partnership commitment will always come down to WANTING to have someone’s back no matter what, and to want them to do the same for you.
 
Until a person truly reaches this space of wanting the US in commitment they will continue to be bouncing through relationships of stable ambiguity.
So ask yourself today, “Why do I do relationships?”
“How do I get to a place of true commitment and knowing that this is the person that I want to commit to?”
“What questions do I need to ask early on or things do I need to share to support this path?”
 
And if you want help on this path of discovering your soulmate, want to learn the right inquiry and how to go about clearing the space to call in a committed love and life partnership, reach out to me today. This is what I have helped countless singles do over the last almost two decades.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

Participation in Life is an Accomplishment.

SOMETIMES I JUST NEED AN ADULT PARTICIPATION AWARD…

 

Can you relate?

Do you sometimes just wish that someone would say,

“Hey I see ya doing all that adulting stuff over there, good job!”

 

Sometimes do you just wish that someone would acknowledge your pain and struggle with you? Or say hey, life is not fair.

 

Do you wish that your partner or friend would just recognize that you are off a bit, read your mind, or just pat you on the head per se?

 

Acknowledgement.

We all want it.

We need it to a degree.

Or so we are raised these days to believe.

 

We live in a society of adults that were raised with their mama’s praising them for everything, running to their side every time they got a bang on the knee, not allowing them to feel the pain, move through it, problem solve it and “grow a pair” of their own.

 

We live in a world today where we don’t have winners and losers.

We have a good job for showing the f-ck uppers!

 

Participation in life is an accomplishment it seems.

And because of this piss poor upbringing we believe that we are entitled to life handing us something without us having to do the actual work for it. 

Or feel the pain in the gain to achieve it.

Or to build the muscles to have the strength to succeed in anything.

 

We have a society of adults who are overgrown infants wanting to suckle at the bottle of life everytime they don’t get the recognition that they “believe” is theirs.

 

And this leads to tons of issues.

 

This weekend I read an article on just this and as I sat there with my youngest children who are both boys, screaming and fighting with each other, running onto the play set yelling back at me,

“Mom, mom…. look at me… aren’t you proud of me climbing up the stairs, sliding down the slide, being this high up…”

 

Wanting recognition for participating in being alive, in being a child.

I wondered how many parents out there would say,

“Good job honey, I am so proud of you. You are such a big kid.”

 

Pat.

Pat.

Pat.

 

The majority would, right?

Maybe you would even.

 

I did not.

 

I glanced at them, smiled slightly and made eye contact.

That’s all they got from me.

 

They had nothing to get a big pat on the head for,

and the last thing I want to raise are adults that believe that this world owes them something, that their happiness and centeredness or feeling of being lovable or worthy of blessings should ever come from an outside source of being acknowledged and patted on the ego.

 

Now you may very well differ and that is great if you do.

Maybe you believe that constant acknowledgement and recognition, false awards and making sure that no one’s feelings get hurt or that no one whacks another a little around in a good tossel or a race is the way that life’s supposed to work.

But I ask you this…

 

where else in life does this happen?

If you look at any other living creature out there on this planet of ours, where does life baby you? where does it pat you on the head and give you a participation award, go light on you because you are struggling or have gone through whatever sh*t?

 

The answer is no where.

 

Now you might say, well Kendal we are not wild animals.

We are advanced with intellect and we live in a civilized society.

 

For the most part yes.

But it’s a weak society.

A society that allows its liberties and freedoms to be stripped from it because everyone is running scared.

Because no one knows how to put in the elbow grease or take a MF hit on the field of life.

 

Our society takes offense to EVERYTHING.

 

You are damned no matter what in today’s world.

If you don’t say it politically correct on whatever given day it is then F-ck! You are ruined for life.

If you don’t make sure that you are always taking care of everyone else’s feelings and thoughts, views and attitudes well then you are horrible and self-centered.

Uncaring.

Not kind.

 

Have boundaries just not with him, her, her, or him.

Take care of yourself unless it interferes with you taking care of me.

Live your truth unless I don’t like it.

You are powerful unless I deem others because you are not doing life the way I think you should.

 

And oh yeah, pat me on the MF head for being the best friend, the best husband or wife, the best lover, the best… the best….

 

You know that you could not do life without me.

So tell me so, damn it!

 

P-A-T M-E O-N T-H-E H-E-A-D!

 

Tell me that for showing up this morning, breathing and just being here that I am good. 

That I you owe me.

That you see me.

 

Recognize me.

 

Well folks….

That’s not reality.

Life supports the strong.

Life supports the bold.

Life supports those who support themselves.

Life supports the ones who don’t need the recognition and can just put their heads down and do the damn thing they need to do because they know that they need to do it, because that damn thing, is the damn thing that scares the sh*t out of them and their soul is pushing them to do, no matter anyone else.

Especially all those participation award folks.

 

 

And when you gain recognition and awards by just doing the damn thing, guess what?

 

You sure AF don’t hand over accolaids to others who just showed up on the MF sidelines of life that day.

 

Demanding that they have a right to your time, your money, your love, your space, or your energy in any fashion.

 

There is a BIG difference between recognition and love I want to add. That is there is a big difference between authentic love and recognition.

 

And a major issue with this participation award society outside of training us that we are owed a win when we have not earned it, or we are safe in the face of danger because someone has always saved us, or that we always will have someone running to our side to pick up the pieces and kiss our boo-boo’s when a true adult sucks it up and know that they have to hold themselves in all ways the majority of the time and that it is no one else’s responsibility to save us, make us happy or feel safe.

 

But on top of all of this vitally important life success training that is NOT happening, and the lack of character building that our society is struggling with or ability to KNOW WTF we are as individuals in any area of life without someone else leading us first and telling us that it’s okay, we have a society believing that recognition is a sign of love.

 

That applauds equal love.

 

So far from the truth we have fallen.

This is why so many people are lost and will fall for false love, end up being used and abused, and trying to constantly be something for someone else that they are not.

This is why so many are out of soul alignment.

They misjudge what true love is and they do not know themselves.

They are blocked from their core.

From their strength.

 

 

I ask you, how important is it that you get the pat on the head?

Do you believe that recognition and constant approval and noticing of the fact that you exist is actual love?

 

Do you find your strength here?

Or can you feel your weakness?

 

Time to wake the f-ck up my love.

You are worthy.

You are lovable.

You are valuable.

You are beautiful.

 

Recognize these facts in your core.

Stop needing the false approval of this world.

 

You must choose if you are a sheep or if you are a lion.

 

Life favors one,

the other is blinded by the wool it chooses to hide behind.

 

As Always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

kendalwilliams.com

TIME TO TEAR DOWN THE WALLS OF YOUR MF NEWTONIAN WORLD.

TIME TO TEAR DOWN THE MF WALLS OF YOUR NEWTONIAN WORLD

 

Some days I am just sick and tired of all the bullsh*t that I hear, see and even think myself. Getting lost in all the fear of what is to come and not wanting for the past to repeat itself… well not at least the sh*t that was no fun.

 

But how is it that we can ever break free from these fears?

How do we break the bondage of our past,

because the reality is that we often KNOW what we are going to get from any given situation in life.

We have been down the road before,

and when a similar road presents itself then we get triggered emotionally to it and we just know what we know.

 

And often we know that it ain’t going to work out the way that we hoped for.

That person is not going to be all that we “think” they are.

That job is not going to be as great as we want it too.

People are people no matter who they are, right.

That’s why we end up dating the same person over and over again even though it’s a different body.

That’s why every year we keep having the same results with our health efforts or our financial situations.

Because the world is always the same.

 

And WE MAKE IT SUCH.

 

We live in the illusion of the predictability of the Newtonian world.

 

Claiming that we are living in alignment with our souls.

That we are living in integrity.

Or that we are WOKE.

 

We wake each morning and start our day with the same rituals as the day before, same times, same habits, same scrolling through Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or even our dating apps. Then off to some news as we finish our coffee and then go shower and head out into our pre-planned agendas.

 

And we argue that THIS is just how it has to be.

Not realizing that in our belief about this predictability we are actually creating our LIMITATIONS around everything that we proclaim that we want for.

 

That these rituals that we all do, are actually creating comfort in what we do not want. Our physical bodies due to the predictability of our lives are programmed to respond emotionally, neurologically and mentally at the same times each day in the same patterns because of our “need” of comfort in what is familiar to us.

 

Now many people today call themselves WOKE.

Meaning conscious.

They are aware of the world around them and that the thoughts they think play a significant impact on the life that they are living and that their emotions are the gauge to if they are living on purpose and from soul or if they are straying from their truth.

They are spiritual.

They are soulful.

They are WOKE.

 

Alas, they look at their lives and they wonder why they still do not have the love, the money and the life happiness that they want for.

Turning to the belief structure that they are paying some karmic debt, or that they are building some spiritual muscle and that once they “prove themselves” then they will be worthy of the love, money and happiness. Or they simply believe that spiritual and woke means you are above the need or desire of any of these things.

 

Still at their deepest heart, they want for it.

And they too, live by the programs created in the body, the mind and the emotions to continuously create the same reality as yesterday.

 

MAKING THE MOST WOKE OF PEOPLE AVERAGE AND ORDINARY IN THEIR SELF-PATTERNING.

 

Sound familiar?

 

Maybe you are guilty of this yourself.

Or maybe you got it all figured out.

In truth that is one of the greatest deceptions of the human ego,

believing that we got it all figured out.

Believing that we “understand” and that we are “doing what we need/should be.”

Believing that we are some enlightened being.

 

Now, granted you are an enlightened being.

You are your own guru.

You sure AF don’t need me or anyone else preaching to you the 1, 2, 3’s of how to have the life that you want.

 

You got all the answers right there in that pretty mind and heart of yours.

 

Your issue is that you don’t see that you have all the answers.

You don’t believe that you know what the next step is for your life.

 

YOU ARE MF AFRAID TO CHANGE THINGS UP!

And so….

here you are.

Doing the same damn things that you always do.

 

Accepting the newtonian world and all its predictability for your reality, then crying about how things never change no matter how hard you work at it, no matter how much you journal, meditate, go out and look for new people, push your boundaries, practice this or that, read this or that, educate yourself, exercise, eat good food, etc.

 

As long as you sit back and expect that predictability to become non-predictable and do something different without you taking the reigns and accessing the quantum reality of your life with a little analytical focus, then you will continue to be right about everything that you probably don’t want to be right about.

 

You have got to become aware and understand why you are trapping yourself in the same thoughts day after day.

 

You have got to slow the f-ck down and start to analyze instead of just reacting to your emotional waves and all the “feels” that you have.

 

You have got to see, I mean really f-cking SEE how your internal world and your expectations and rituals in it are manifesting your physical reality.

 

And THEN…

 

You have to actually get sick of your own BullSh*t!

 

Because baby,

sure there is bunch of sh*t going on in our world right now.

Our world society is full of fear.

Our world economy is questionable.

 

But it’s just a bunch of malarkey if you are buying into that any of what is going on has a true impact on the quantum realm,

where your true reality is.

 

It’s your expectations and beliefs.

It’s your comfort with suffering and keeping what you don’t want familiar,

that is keeping you on replay in your life.

 

I was just chatting with a woman yesterday that shared how she had one of her highest income months as an entrepreneur in February of 2121, she made over $84,000 in her little at home business.

 

But the economy sucks you say.

No one can afford anything you say.

It’s the wrong time to start up a business you say.

 

Really?

 

I was just chatting with a man last week that was so excited, he has been unemployed for 2 weeks and he was starting to buy into the BS of COVID making jobs hard to secure, but just two weeks in he landed his dream job,making almost three times the income that he was all these years when the economy was not impacted by a pandemic or political upheaval.

 

But you cannot find work, you say?

That you are overqualified, underqualified, it does not work like that?

 

Really?

 

I was just speaking with a woman that is part of my Manifest Your Man Workshop and she was sharing how she has been on so many yummy dates lately. How connective the men are that she is meeting. How she really feels like this is the time of her life to meet her true soulmate and she is seeing so many conscious men coming into her options.

 

But I suppose that if you are among the many singles out there you may believe that people are not dating right now.

That people don’t want to take time or money to go do things.

That there is nothing to go do even for a date.

 

Really?

 

These are all your MF programs that you have locked in and that keep you safe in your newtonian world.

 

And this is what is stopping you from living the life that you say you want.

 

The love, the money, the life happiness,

IT IS THERE FOR YOUR HAVING.

 

But You are the only one that can take down the walls to your predictable world of comfort and suffering.

 

If you are ready to take action reach out to me,

if not, cool beans.

Keep doing you, like you are.

 

No matter,

loving you from the quantum field of open possibility.

 

As Always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

 

Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

 

If you are ready to be Unavailable for Bullsh*t and want to break your walls down around living a predictable life so that you can claim the abundance, love and joy that your soul knows is yours.

Lets chat and get you into my April 1st, 2021 Session of Unavailable for Bullsh*t where you will be able understand and implement the 8 pillars of love, money and life happiness.

 

PM me or add in comments that you want deet’s on this elite 8-week 1:1 mentoring opportunity now.

 

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SOMETHINGS ARE NOT OURS FOR THE KEEPING.

💃💃💃THERE IS ONLY ONE RULE, NEVER ANY MORE.

 

No matter what it is that you are wanting for in life, and generally speaking we humans only really go after a few things, all other things are secondary and based on our desire for the primary things. Our primary desires circle around love 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨, money💰 and what we believe these two things will provide us with… happiness .

 

Anything else that we crave in life we remain under the impression that they will somehow assist us in acquiring these three primaries.

 

And so the timeless story goes,

we fear not gaining what we want so badly for and in our fear we settle for all the things that are not truly ours for the having and wonder why we are suffering. 🤯

 

👊👊👊The ONLY RULE to life is such!

 

👉NEVER Settle for that, that is not yours to begin with. 👀

 

 

But how then do we know what is ours and what is not you may ask?

 

It is simple, truly it is.

Those things, no matter what they may be, relationships, jobs, experiences that we may believe we “should ” have, etcetera, etcetera, but do not align to our SOUL are not ours for the keeping.

 

Did you catch that?

That subtle statement right there.

“Not ours for the keeping.”

 

And I highlight this because it does not mean that we are not to explore such things.

These things that are out of alignment with our SOUL expression sometimes need to be explored so that we can gain deeper clarity and purification of our desires and our frequency to those desires.

 

Contrast is clarifying and mandatory for our learning of self.

 

Until we know whom we are not,

and what we do not want for,

we do not gain the understanding and sight of who we truly are and what we want.

 

SImply put you cannot know you are a true F-ck No to something until you “think” you are a F-ck Yes only to discover otherwise from time and experience.

 

This is why we have false “love” based relationships.

It is not that we do not love our partner or that we fall out of love with them. What is actually occuring is that we come together with a partner in love for our self-awareness a.k.a. clarification and purification process. In our relating to this other soul that is not our soulmate we are able to learn our boundaries, our needs, our non-negotiables. We are better equipped to speak our truth because often in a relationship that is not ours for the keeping we are pushed to deny our hearts and souls as to make lenience for the others will and wants.

 

And so we become WISE to our SOUL.

Wisdom comes from learning what feels in alignment and what does not and THEN listening to the nudges from our core self.

 

Realizing that although many packages can be delivered to us in this lifetime,

presenting themselves as the perfect situation, the perfect person, the perfect fit in love, work and happiness,

if “something feels off” about it…

 

👉👉👉THAT’S BECAUSE IT IS.

 

It’s not bad.

It’s just not yours.

Or at very most, not yours for the keeping.

It may be yours for the learning.

 

The trick to this rule of thumb in life that will without a doubt make your life all so much simpler, peaceful and happier.

Will bare with it the richness of the manifestation of all your souls desires as well,

is to number one, LEARN TO LISTEN to that soft voice within that speaks your truth.

Number two, STOP giving two sh*ts or f-ck to what anyone else thinks, believes or what you see them doing and think that you can somehow mimic.

 

Their soul expression is theirs.

Their soul path is theirs.

And what is theirs in this life,

IS THEIRS.

 

Not yours.

So just STOP.

STOP with all the lies you are telling yourself.

Stop with all the Bullsh*t you are feeding yourself about living from SOUL,

Living on PURPOSE,

Listening to your SOUL.

 

If your sh*t is not VIBING and you are not THRIVING,

Then you are OUT OF SOUL INTEGRITY.

 

And chances are…

You are looking everywhere but where you need to to find what is yours for the keeping.

 

Loving You From Soul. 🙏

 

As Always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

 

It’s happening!

April 1st, 2021…

 

Unavailable for Bullsh*t.

Are you ready to get mofo DONE with the bullsh*t?

 

Do you realize just how freakin’ simple and easy in flow your life would be if you just started to honor your soul?

 

Maybe not.

 

Maybe you don’t really understand what it means to honor your soul.

 

Maybe it is a great concept to you, you feel like you are already doing it,

 

but just cannot figure out the micro- details as to why things are not fully lining up yet the way you had desired them too.

 

 

You are still struggling.

 

In love and relationship.

 

With your money.

 

Or maybe it just is everywhere in your life.

 

Causing you limited life happiness.

 

Well here is the thing love,  living from soul means a few things,

 

the primary being to…

 

STOP ACCEPTING BULLSH*T!

 

Which means to start to honor your boundaries, standards and requirements in life.

 

In all subject areas.

 

Can you just imagine a life where you knew what you wanted,

 

you had great clarity about it,

 

you could feel it and almost taste it.

 

And you just KNEW without a doubt that it was yours for the having.

 

Because you were operating from faith and soul instead of fear.

 

Because you understood the 8 Pillars of Love, Money and Life Happiness,

and knew that through these pillars you were able to achieve and manifest your wildest desires…

 

Can you imagine that sorta life?

 

Or here is one more for you, love,

 

what about a life where you stopped questioning if this or that was right and good for you,

 

but instead trusted in your soul response so vividly that you were always certain as to what choices to make in life,

 

in relationship,

 

with your health or well being.

 

With anything.

 

Can you imagine this sorta life?

 

Well it is possible.

 

In this 8-week exclusive training you get to work with me on breaking free from the bullsh*t that you have allowed yourself to believe in all these years and you get to FINALLY say MF YES! to your beautiful Soul.

 

PM me for deet’s or leave a comment here saying you are done with the BS!

GET OUT OF YOUR OWN LIGHT.

THE FUTURE IS ALWAYS BRIGHT…. NO MATTER THE SHADOW OF THE MOUNTAIN.

 

Recently my life partner and I drove up to Pikes Peak in Colorado together. It was bitter cold out, the fresh snow lay everywhere. People flocked to sled and enjoy snow ball fights.

The crisp winter wind felt amazing on my flesh as I stood there looking out over the valley that lay at the base of the peak.

 

I recall at one moment, standing with my partner’s arms around me. We looked out at the vastness before us,

and I could feel the message of the universe in that moment.

There we were, in the shadow of Pikes Peak, a great mountain blocking the rays of the warm sun, a crisp snowy breeze blowing around us, and we felt limitless in that space.

 

We felt grounded.

Stroung.

and in love with life.

Clarity in what we wanted and the path that we had chosen together was our guiding light.

Just like the miles that stretched out in front of this mountain were sunstruck, warm and bright, so was our future.

 

And I was reminded…

That you cannot always pre-map out the journey.

Often great things come unexpected.

However,

 

YOU WILL ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU BELIEVE IS YOURS.

 

If you believe that your possibilities are limitless,

then they are.

If you believe that you are surrounded and held in love,

then you are.

If you believe that you can live a life of abundance, adventure and joy,

then you can.

 

The problem is that so often we choose to own our worst nightmares.

 

We choose to focus in on what we don’t have and accept it as our reality,

we purchase that for our life destination and journey instead of what we claim that we hunger for at our souls level.

 

And THIS REALITY IS SO THEN.

You may say that you did not plan for all the shit to happen,

that its not in your plan or picture to stand there without a great love in your life,

or to believe that you always lose in love.

You may claim that its not in your agenda to create financial destruction,

the loss of house and home,

divorce, strife and health issues,

but honey, the reality is that you are looking for it.

 

This time of Covid has proven to me just how many people leap at the opportunity to jump into their victim status,

I see so many people wanting to test positive for the Rona,

saying,

” I am sick. I must have the Rone.”

 

or blaming the economy because of critical times for their financial pictures,

their relationship stress.

Their “inability” to get out and do things,

for their weight gain, poor eating and sluggish habits.

 

Well if your hidden agenda is to be a victim,

then guess what luv,

YOU WILL BE A MF VICTIM.

 

And you will stay in the shadow of life,

in the shadow of all those who choose differently.

You will stand there,

and be a spectator to others thriving,

because you planned to be limited by life.

 

YOU EXPECT TO BE LIMITED.

 

And you will only ever get as far as you plan.

Or you could open up those plans to the possibilities that YOU ARE IN FACT LIMITLESS.

 

Unless, that scares you too much, of course.

Because that might require you to step out of the herd,

and grow a pair.

That might demand of you to go digging deeper inside yourself then you have ever gone before.

That might require you to look good and hard at your inner demons ,

those thoughts, fears, desires, and opinions,

that are holding you the f-ck back.

 

Now granted you can continue down that path you are on,

you can plot it out,

step by step,

and you can prepare for the worst case scenarios in every which way possible,

and you can stand guard.

Pick your MF armour up and be ready to battle life at every perceived turn,

and sure that might not be bad,

if your goal in life is to survive it long enough to die anyway,

and look back at a empty path,

where you retreated and warred with anything that caused you to expand.

With anything that asked you to trust in your heart and soul.

That required you to have it to leap and open your wings.

 

Sure you can get by like that.

The majority of folks do.

 

But thats all they do,

GET BY.

 

And sit there in the land of spectatorship.

Wishing for something more.

Questioning why others always have, do and create.

Not feeling fulfilled.

Seen.

Truly loved.

 

Or…

 

You could do something a bit differently and step out of the crowd.

You could realize that the valley before you lit up with all that radiant glory,

is yours for the taking.

 

It will just require you to have a higher perspective on life.

To tap the f-ck into your truth,

and to have enough courage to say F-ck Yes! To You.

 

This Is not average and ordinary living.

No.

What I am proclaiming and believe is accessible and our right as humans is to live limitless and THRIVE.

 

That we each are worthy beyond measure of just that.

That our dreams and desires are set before us not to tease us,

not to cause us disappointment in life and self,

or point out our lack or inabilities,

but instead they are put there,

 

FOR THE TAKING.

 

They are there because they are rightfully ours to begin with.

 

They WILL REQUIRE us to become a match to them.

 

They will require that we step out of our comfort zones.

They will require that we expand,

that we open ourselves up to our limitlessness.

 

They will without a doubt require that WE KNOW WHAT WE WANT.

 

And the courage to gain all that we want and feel that depth and level of fulfillment,

well it will only come when we stop standing in the way of our own sunshine as Waldo Emerson said.

 

Because the reality is….

That most of the mountains that we believe are blocking our path and our great plans,

are only us standing in our own sunshine.

 

 

Time to set yourself free baby.

Time to know your truth.

 

And As Always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

 

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THIS IS HOW YOU MOVE THE MOUNTAINS IN YOUR LIFE.

YOU ARE NEVER CALLED TO DO SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE NOT READY TO DO!

 

That’s right luv,

I am speaking to you.

 

You say that you are feeling called to make that change.

You know the change….

That DAMN THING in your life that is NOT “fine.”

That you are not happy with,

that has been causing you remorse for so long,

and you just cannot seem to change it.

 

You say that you are WILLING and motivated to make the change,

that you know that if you do not do something now then life will just continue to be the same and that you are not good with that.

 

You say that you are sick and tired of being sick and tired.

That this shiz has got to stop!

 

But is that true luv?

 

Is it?

 

 

Let’s be real…..

 

All this claiming.

All this believing that you are actually wanting it.

All this knowing that now is the effing time.

And yet….

 

What do you do?

 

Make excuses. Want it to be handed to you on a silver plate without you having to actually step the f-ck up and claim it?

 

Really?

 

Are you being for real right now, luv?

Cuz’ that is sheer crazy thinking.

 

ANd so what do you believe?

What do you tell yourself?

 

“It must not be the right time.”

“If it were the right time then everything would just fall into place. I would not have to show up like this for it. I would not have to make that commitment to my calling like that.”

 

Well luv,

that is nothing but utter bullshiz right there.

 

The thing sthat you feel the most called too,

will show up for you in the perfect time.

However the perfect time does not mean that you won’t have to show up and commit yourself to them in some fashion that WILL TEST your desire.

 

Test your courage and your faith.

 

If you want to move the mountains in your life then you are going to have to do the DAMN THING that you feel challenged by to get them to move,

you are going to have to commit your energy, your time, your money, your focus to them.

 

And you are going to feel a tug and a push.

You are going to doubt if its possible,

if you can do it or if the time or situation is right.

You are going to question a hell of a lot of things luv.

 

But those of us who have done the DAMN THING,

KNOW….

 

we KNOW that if you are feeling called to do something then

IT IS TIME to act on it without reservation or hesitation.

 

That is your SOUL knocking and guiding you to your desired life and dreams.

 

It has certainty that you can do it and that the path is set before you.

You may not be able to see it from where you stand right now,

but the path is there and everything that you need to accomplish your dreams,

that f-ck yes life that you want for….

 

it’s all right there waiting for you to COMMIT yourself to taking that step toward it.

 

But as long as you choose the reasons and excuses as to why you cannot take that step,

then all you will ever succeed at is having what you have.

 

So get use to the world that you are living in baby,

cuz’ it won’t change till you take action and commit to making it happen.

To do the damn work.

To step out in faith and lean toward what you are feeling called toward.

 

This is your moment luv.

You are so worthy of that life,

that love,

the success and money,

the health that you desire and feel called toward.

It is there waiting on you to say YES to it.

 

 

So what are you going to do?

 

Say yes to the reasons and excuses or yes to the life that you want?

 

 

It’s decision time.

 

And As Always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

 

 

Ready to take that step luv?

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No One Gives AF!

Brutal truth shared today!
NO ONE CARES IF YOU SUCCEED OR NOT.🤯
No one gives a rats rear end if you do the DAMN THING that you have been saying that you want to do for the last however long you have been saying that you want to do it.
No one effing cares if you do anything,
👉fail…
👉don’t fail….
👉succeed….
👉sorta succeed…
👉don’t succeed.
We are constantly armed with excuses and reasons as to why we cannot do something,
and often many of these reasons and excuses that we spew out of our mouths are based with the concept that someone else actually cares if we are succeeding or not.
We make it sound like it really matters,
like what we choose to design for our lives matters to someone else.
And that they are going to rate us on whatever the DAMN THING is.
But the reality of the matter is,
and if you can get this one down and fully realize it’s truth then you will be miles and miles ahead of so many others,
(because that matters, right?….🤣🤣🤣)
That LITERALLY every damn thing that you are making excuses about,
that you are arguing for WHY YOU CANNOT…
do, be, have,
because of what someone else may say, believe or whatever crap you are feeding yourself, is only your own beliefs about YOU.
And guess what beautiful.
YOU…
yes you, can change those beliefs.
The moment that you get this truth,
the truth that the reason that you don’t have the life that you want,
the relationship that you want,
the money, the house, the car, the job, the health, the body…..
IS BECAUSE OF YOU.
That is the moment that everything will change for you.
Because in this moment of truth beautiful,
you discover your power,
you get the opportunity to realize WHO YOU REALLY ARE.
And that my luv is a MF Manifestor.
You have the creative power of the universe,
of God moving through your veins and you get to create the picture that you want from it,
you no longer have to fret about all this imaginary beliefs that fake people in your life are believing, saying or thinking about you.
Matter a fact,
you get to create the image of YOU that you want.
You get to be YOU.
Free from all the garbage that you have been putting on yourself about what others believe.
You get to CHOOSE.
So if you want to do something wild and crazy….
GREAT!
Do it.
or don’t.
It does not matter.
If you want to change jobs,
change hair colors,
change locations,
change religions,
change lovers….
GREAT!
Do it!
or don’t.
These things are all you baby.
They are your choices.
This is your life.
And at the end of it,
you will only be dealing with YOU and God.
And what you “think” others are believing about you,
about your looks,
your intelligence,
your finances,
your purpose,
your ideas or anything,
well THINK again.
Because what they will be focused on,
is what they have always been focused on.
THEM.
And making what they feel is the best choice for their lives from where they are at RIGHT NOW.
And chances are,
if anything…
they are fearing what your beliefs are of them and their life more then they are thinking or believing anything about you and yours.
So go do that DAMN THING that you have been making excuses over the last six months,
the last year or five years.
Or don’t do it.
The choice is yours.
And this life that you claim you want to manifest,
it will come about when you stop making excuses and stop believing a bunch of illusions about what everyone else is believing about you.
Cuz’ honey, you are important,
but not that important to everyone else that you take up all their thought energy and belief focus.
It is time that you start being important to the most important person in your life….
YOU.
And owning what you want to create.
So stop making excuses or don’t.
Either way it does not matter to any more than one person on this planet….
YOU.
And you baby are worthy of saying YES to the life that you want.
You baby are worthy of manifesting effing greatness.
You baby deserve to live that empowered life.
Because from that empowered place…
you can touch others lives,
and you will start to matter at a deeper level then you could ever imaging.
But, still at the end of the day,
what you choose,
is YOU CHOOSING IT.
Or NOT.
Either way,
you are loved.
Just Be You Without the Excuses.
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Let’s do this!
You and me,
this summer.
Break free from your shiz once and for all and fall in love with the dynamic, powerhouse that YOU are.
No one is like you.
And you have a life worth sharing,
worth enjoying.
You have one life love.
One.
Let’s make it a F-ck Yes! One NOW.
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When Life Is A Fight.

Life can be a fight.
Life certainly can be a struggle.
And you know how crappy that can feel,
When it seems like you are rubbing your penny’s together trying to make ends meet.
Living pay check to pay check,
Or maybe not even knowing if there will be a pay check or where funds will come from.
You sit in the fear of not knowing,
You feel the burning desire to have things be different,
You look into the eyes of your children and avoid your own in the mirror.
Plotting and planning,
Looking at opportunities,
Trying to keep hope alive but feeling the stress of reality.

Life can be fight in these moments.
You are fighting for what feels everything.
Fighting for survival.

And you know how you can change it?
You can change it by simply stopping to fight.

Stop fighting for your suffering.
Stop fighting for the scarcity of everything you desire.

Stop arguing on behalf of why the life that you want is not showing up.

Do you get it beautiful?
Can you see that all your fearing and stressing,
Your reasoning as to why it is the way that it is and your need to chitter chat and gossip about how messed up things are in your world is the true culprit of creating your mess.

Yes beautiful,
You are fighting the fight,
Because you feel like thats what you should do.
You are sharing your stories because you want it recognized that you are suffering despite all your focus, time and hard work.

You are wanting others to pat you on the head and say that they see you,
They see all you are doing and support that its not fair.
To say that you are so deserving and they too don’t get why things are the way they are.

Yes beautiful,
You are fighting to keep alive your suffering and lack.
You are fighting to be understood for your not having.
You want it to be okay.
And so you argue with anything or anyone who says it could be different.
Including your own heart and soul.

Its hard to hear our truth,
Its challenging to be responsible for our lives.
But if you are to ever have your dreams manifest,
Then its time to get clear.

Life is only a fight when you are the one fighting with it.

You were born to be thriving.
Born to experience well being in all areas.
You were born to feel the path beneath each step that you take and take it in ease,
Because your nature is that of one who lives in flow and creates consciously,
But you my beautiful are fighting against your truth.

And arguing in favor of the life you claim to want to change.

Its time though.
Its time to step forth and look yourself in the eyes,
To acknowledge the fears and support you have been offering those fears.

Its time claim the life that you were born to live,
The love that you were born to embrace,
The abundance that you were born to experience,
Its time beautiful to claim it all.

Take just 20 seconds out of your chaotic day to sit with yourself,
In stillness and rest,
Rest your mind and heart on a dream and hold it up to the heavens of your soul to be revealed.
But you must hold on to it from a place of having,
A place of loving,
And let go of the argument.
Let go of the fight.

In love this Mothers Day Weekend to all the mama’s out there who work so hard at keeping it all together and raising their babies ❤.
You were born to lead mama,
You were born to create,
Let your children see the superwoman that you are.

Live Unbound and free.

As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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#AWOMANLIKEYOU – I want that!

I am so effing hungry.
I want for so much.
My body desires to open.
To feel,
to have,
to be taken.
I long to be dominated and ravished.
To surrender.
To be FREE.
 
This is the desire of a turned on sensually confident woman.
 
Do not try and control me though.
Do not think you own me.
 
If you want me,
then have me.
 
JUST AS I AM.
 
Your desire is beautiful for me.
But your focus on creating me into something that I am not,
irritates my soul.
 
You claim that you want this sexual seductress,
but in your wanting you do not fathom what it will require from YOU.
 
You cannot have me sweet man.
And here is where your issue resides.
You will never contain that essence that you want so badly for.
You will never have me.
You must always be comfortable with letting me go.
 
I am wild and I am free.
I am independent even when you carry me.
I am passionate and powerful,
hungry and emotional.
You love my wild woman,
You crave to penetrate her so.
But in the enveloping,
you will loose yourself,
and if you allow this to happen,
you will loose me as well.
 
You see this woman that you desire…
she will only be with you,
if she wants you.
 
She will only remain,
if she is free to be herself.
She will only go deeper if she can trust that you can handle her fire,
her dance,
her love,
her passion and thirst for life.
 
She will play with many,
but hold out for only the few.
 
The few that are confident in themselves.
Expansive and strong.
Who want for her like she wants for life.
 
This confident seductress,
she is I my love,
but you can and never will have her.
 
Can you handle that knowledge my sweet?
Can you love and trust with the knowing that you will never contain that, that you desire to keep so close?
 
Can you muster up the courage my love to step further into who you truly are and witness all the depth of your soul,
unmasking your fears,
unraveling your truths,
and letting go of all that holds you back away from,
to feel you and her in totality?
 
Can you my love?
 
It will be required.
It will be sought after.
And for you to keep her,
you must do this at very least.
 
Many a warrior has walked on her grounds,
many a man who believed that he was King enough to hold her attention,
carry her heart,
open her soul,
and expand her sex.
 
Many have believed that they touched something special.
Many have thought that they captivated her.
But in truth,
it is not such.
It is but only a few.
 
Enjoy your dance my love.
Enjoy this dance while it is here.
Do not get caught up in the ideas and visions of owning her lands,
do not believe that she will employ you for more time then she feels fit,
the goddess on her knees before you,
with her intoxicating smile and scent,
her eye’s glimmering with fire,
her touch that ignites your core,
making you want to be a better man.
 
Yes that goddess will always adore you.
She will always appreciate you.
But the moment you reach out to hold on…
 
SHE IS GONE.
 
This is the dance of the of a turned on sensually confident woman.
 
A woman who KNOWS herself.
A woman who LOVES herself.
A woman who is OPEN.
A woman who is EMPOWERED.
 
The seductress you hunger for,
who makes you crave for more,
she is unattainable,
even if you bask in her love for a lifetime.
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
 
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
This poem was inspired by all the men who have shared their desire to have me in some fashion,
or to find me within another woman some way.
 
All women are seductresses.
All women deserve a KING.
And to call out this empowered, turned on Queen,
YOU must be a fit KING.
 
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STOP EFFING AROUND WITH THAT THING THAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK! – LET GO NOW.

I know how much you want it.
That THING…
 
That THING that you crave at your core.
You can taste having it, right.
You body tenses from the idea of getting it.
Excitement.
Nervousness.
The WHAT IF?
 
What if I get it,
what if I achieve it?
 
But even more so surging through your core,
through your veins is the WHAT IF of NOT having it.
 
And this my love is causing you the resistance that you feel.
The holding back of all that is yours for the having.
 
Your intense interest in having it is actually leaning mores o into the NOT HAVING IT.
 
Have you been wondering WHY?
 
Why is it not showing up?
Why is it that no matter how much focus you apply,
no matter how much attention you give it,
alignment work that you do,
journalling, ‘meditating,
fantasizing,
and “trying” to make yourself believe that it is coming,
BUT STILL…
 
It does not show up.
 
Have you been wondering WHY?
 
And no matter how hard you work at getting it,
how much you “feel” in the flow,
its just not there.
It’s just not happening.
 
And that love is SCARY as shiz, right?
 
I mean this is something BIG AF.
This is something you feel passionate about.
That you can FEEL at your CORE.
And you see others doing it.
Having it.
And living it.
 
But for some reason it just is not happening for you.
And you cannot figure out what the THING is that you need to do to get it.
 
So what is the THING love?
 
Okay, come here…
lean in love,
let me share a secret with you.
It is the answer that you have been looking for,
it is the answer that you already know,
unfortunately.
And you most likely are resisting it,
because you don’t know how to do it.
 
It’s YOU LETTING GO.
 
Your interest and focus on gain this THING is what is keeping it away from you love.
 
You are so caught up on the MUST HAVE,
that the energy that you are putting out is NOT HAVING.
And because you are feeling the void of not having it,
you are getting NOT HAVING IT.
 
This is your FEAR.
Right?
 
You fear what life is going to be like if you don’t get your dreams and goals,
if you don’t succeed at your dreams.
You fear being told that you were wrong,
silly, stupid, naive even,
for “think” that you could do it, have it, achieve it.
 
Yes THIS IS THE THING that is holding you back love.
 
It is your intense focus on the NOT HAVING.
 
And your fear of not getting it.
 
You have GOT TO LET THIS SHIZ GO NOW!
 
Number one success rule to having your dreams come true:
 
FEEL THEM WITH YOU NOW.
 
You have got to be in the vibration ALREADY,
in order to have the relationship of your dreams,
the money that you want,
the lifestyle that you desire, ‘the health and well being,
the JOY….
 
Yes,
in order to have anything that you want you have to be in the feeling of it already.
 
In simple terms,
you have got to NOT NEED IT.
 
Vibrationally,
you can not be in NEED.
 
NEED will keep you in resistance to having it.
 
That is why it is so easy to watch things that are unimportant to you JUST SHOW UP in ease and with speed.
 
Have you noticed that?
 
How quickly do the things that you just lightly want,
or toss around with no real attachment,
just show up?
 
You are manifesting them into existence all the time.
But these things show up because you are not in NEED of them.
 
You just felt them,
was in alignment to them,
and LET GO.
 
And THIS IS THE THING….
That YOU MUST DO….
To have the THING (s) that you WANT.
 
Start Today.
Let Go.
Play.
Laugh.
Enjoy Your Now.
DREAM.
 
 
And As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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