But thank you anyway for sharing it.
Many moon’s ago I learned this little bit of spiritual wisdom and it has made all the difference in how I deal with others and has helped me to soften my reaction to other as well.
After learning it,
I became more compassionate as I simply saw their judgments, opinions, criticisms and ideas about my life and ways,
even who I was or was not,
as a message as to how they actually saw themselves and just did not recognize it.
It is always so much easier to witness in others,
that, that we have challenges with ourselves on the most.
We see this all the time while driving.
People with road rage,
or people who quickly get defensive or frustrated on the road typically are the one’s who are not wanting to drive,
believe that people are bad drivers always,
believe that there is always way too much traffic,
that people don’t know how to merge.
And you catch these individuals yelping about everything negative on the road.
They also are the one’s who will get right up on your ass and honk,
will flip you off for no good reason,
will pass you quickly and push their way in to exit instead of just moving with the flow of traffic.
They enter the experience of driving with an energy about them.
It is the energy of pissed off frustration.
And they drive accordingly.
And they see it in all their fellow drivers even more so.
And it is just this way,
because THIS is what they are FOCUSED ON.
Focused on the negativity.
Focused on the anger that they feel.
They will say, ” I just don’t like crowds or people.”
But what they are saying is, ” I don’t like myself.”
or ” I am nervous, insecure around people.”
And their focus on the negativity,
on the fear,
the control that they desire,
makes them judgmental of everyone around them and keeps their eye’s open to only THAT that they are looking most for.
WHAT IS WRONG IN THIS WORLD.
What is wrong with you.
What is wrong with anyone.
And to make matters even more worse,
these fine folks with their critical eye want to help FIX IT.
And they KNOW they have the answer needed,
because they have been on the outside looking in and they see how to go about it.
They see the TRUTH.
They have it all figured out.
And they WANT TO HELP.
Never realizing that they cannot help from the place that they are witnessing from,
because they are witnessing an illusion,
or at best an old version of the situation or of you.
They are witnessing the events from a place of scarcity, doubt,
a need to control.
They are witnessing from a place that is not whole.
That place being themselves.
And because their focus in on the negative and a need to fix, control, change things,
they are revealing just how they feel about themselves at the deepest of levels.
Because you see a person who LOVES THEMSELVES,
a person who is connected and aligned to SOUL,
a person who is respectful of being human,
a person who is compassionate,
a person who has true confidence and self-esteem,
who know’s how powerful they really are,
that sort of person has…
NO DESIRE TO JUDGE OR CRITICIZE.
When we judge.
When we criticize.
When we try and change or tell another how or who they are.
When we try and convince another that they are wrong on their path.
We in fact are attempting to CONTROL them.
And not loving them for just who they are, as is.
When we do these things,
we may use tactics such as guilt, shame or fear to get the results that we feel are right,
and in so doing so,
we cut down the heart and soul of the other person.
And if you get right with yourself,
you will realize just how crappy that actually feels to bring someone down.
No matter how good your reasoning may be,
it does not feel good.
And that is because
YOU ARE OUT OF YOUR OWN SOUL ALIGNMENT
in these moments.
So what do you do when you find yourself wanting to fix, judge or change someone?
You breathe and look at what is really coming up for you.
Instead ask yourself,
” How do I truly feel about myself right now?”
I mean really go there.
Don’t take that first response of,
” I feel great!”
That your ego will spout off.
If you want to connect to people.
If you want to enjoy life.
Be received from others.
If you want to know yourself and feel good about who you are.
To be loved and to love.
Then you owe yourself the TRUTH.
How do you feel about the person you are right now?
How do you feel about the life that you have right now?
Start there beautiful.
And take your focus off of everyone’s challenges.
Because whether they have them or not,
it does not matter.
Those challenges and issues,
those problems and wrong doings or beings,
that you perceive.
Are NOT YOURS to fix in any other than YOURSELF.
And As Always,
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