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I View All My Clients As Lovers.

It is frequently assumed that I go on many dates with many men..

It is assumed that to be a coach who teaches people how to have more, and deeper better sex that I must be loose or easy to bed.

That sex is something I am addicted too even.

Its often assumed that because I am the mother of seven that I am uncontrollable and quenchless in my thirst for sex or orgasm.

People often say to me,
” you would think that a sex coach would have figured out what causes pregnancy by now.”

Many look at me with horrified questioning eyes as they inquire if I will have any more children or why I am not currently married.

The assumptions roll through thier minds and almost escape thier lips.

Perhaps even you dear reader and follower wonder and question.
Perhaps you are among the assumers.
And I want you to know that I thank you.
I thank you for all that you feel.
All that you think.
And all that you sometimes goofily share in your assumptions.

I see your humanness.
And I do not judge it.
As you judge me.

I know what my truth is.
I know whom I love.
I know that my heart,
My message and my calling is felt and seen by those it is meant for.

Not everyone can be like a taco as my best friend would say.
And even though I may have a body part that resembles,
I am still not a taco.

I write this musing this evening to shed the light on how we judge what we do not understand.
How we cast stones with certainty,
But are enraged when they are thrown back without due reason in our opinion.

Today I share with you from a place I choose to call the labyrinth of mirrors.

This is the place where we can choose to see ourselves in ALL we come in contact with on our life journey,
Or we can turn away from them,
Look downward and become lost in the maze of our own fears and self criticism.

What do you choose my sweet human?
To be judge and jury to all in your life
And that you meet on your path.

Or to be human.
To be human means to be compassionate.
To self and to others.
To know that we do not know what anothers shoes are like.
What the path they have traveled took them through.
To be human means that you stand as witness not judge.
And to witness another is one of the greatest gifts we can ever offer.
To allow ourselves to be witnessed is the next.

Just yesterday I was working with a dear client of mine. This man has love streaming from every energy fiber he has. And yet he struggles with allowing himself the simple pleasure of recieving that love back.

I left him with the words,
” One day I hope you give me the gift of you allowing yourself to recieve my love.”

Now that statement may instantly bring up assumptions and judgments in you about me.
Or my coaching practice.
What does Kendal do with her clients?
Is she in romantic relations with them.

And you can assume.
You can judge.
And you can cast your head down and keep stubling through your maze.

Be my guest.

What I can tell you is that each day it is revealed and I am reminded of the deep intimacy I hold with these souls that are labled my clients.

They are not my clients.
They are my lovers.
I love each of them deeply.
Men.
Women.
Couples.
The intimacy, vulnerability, rawness and depth that they trust me with is without messure one of the greatest gifts of this life time for me.

And yes….
I love my clients.
I love them for thier willingness to stop bouncing off the walls of thier maze and instead to sit still and let them selves be revealed through the mirrors that are presented on thier path.

I love them for thier courage to catch thier inner judge and jury and fire them daily,
While loving themselves at a more intense level.

I love them for the tender moments that they give grace…
TO THEMSELVES.

I love them for the humor and laughter as they learn how to skip through thier errors and self defeating patterns.

Yes they are my lovers.
And I love them for the blessings that they are.

Now back to that dating thing….
I have dated a few men in my time.
And I have dated many at the same time.
But the men of my current…
The men I choose daily.
These men you may or may never meet…
Some can be captured in picture.
Others in story.

More than one?
Yes in deed.

And does it matter whom they are to you?
Well lets just see if you have been listening.
The judge.
The jury.
They have your answer.

But the mirror will never lie.

As Always My Loves,
Stop Existing & Start Living
Coaching for Grown A*s Believers

 

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MY INTIMACY SHARE ON CURRENT FAMILY LIFE BLESSINGS – FROM A MOTHERS HEART- WHAT I HAVE LEARNED

MY INTIMACY SHARE ON CURRENT FAMILY LIFE BLESSINGS- FROM A MOTHERS HEART – WHAT I HAVE LEARNED

Feeling in love this morning as I get ready for the day and the next two weeks of adventure. I am in gratitude for the lessons and experiences of my past,

as without them I would not appreciate that which is with me today in my relationships, lifestyle, and being. It is so obvious to me how easy it is to take things for granted until we are faced with the not having them and sometimes we have to go through great suffering to appreciate that which our heart desires.

The simple little things mean so much.
It’s the smile from your child when they see you walk in the door.
It’s the warm embrace from your partner for no reason.
It’s the kind acts of service, no matter how small that show such care.
It’s the time taken for a conversation without attention to some device.
It’s the snuggling before bed or the good morning kiss.

When Levi makes me breakfast unexpectedly my heart smiles and I feel so blessed.

Every day when Zach chooses to stop in and chat with me before going home, I feel blessed.

When Sam comes and shares her awe over Dameion’s newest milestones or just sits and has a beautiful deep conversation with me about women-hood, I feel blessed.

When Rebekah comes in and shares her latest mommy experience or challenge, or when she just walks up to me and gives me a big hug and say, “I love you., ” I feel blessed.

When Jules asks to go out with me for whatever reason but I can tell she actually needs to just have a moment with mom to share something happening and is uncertain how else to ask for it, I feel blessed.

When Zak Miller, rounds the corner in my house and walks over to me and gives me a big hug before anything else or sits and talks from his beautiful heart, I feel blessed.

When Eniqueo and I tease each other and we laugh, or we compete in love over a good game of darts, I feel blessed.

When Gabe, wakes up in the morning and snuggles next to me and says, “I want you to be my snuggle buddy.” or rushes to help me do something without being asked, I feel blessed.

When Rowan grabs me and hugs so tight I can barely breathe and claims me all for himself, ” My mommy!” or takes my hand and asks me to read him a story and snuggle, I feel blessed.

When Kia, Andrew and J storm in my home and run to me with smiles and big hugs, I feel blessed.

When Dameion looks with his big eye’s up at me while I am feeding him his bottle and smiles while slurping back his milk, I feel blessed.

When Steve stops everything he is doing because he noticed that something was not right with me without me saying anything and gives me a hug or when he does all the little things that are actually big things to take things off my table, I feel blessed.

When I catch that mental snapshot of a moment that is awe inspiring of my family connecting and loving, laughing and being them, I feel blessed.

My life is so crazy busy.
My life has so many beautiful souls,
these that I shared a fragment of what I am blessed by and so many other dear friends and sister/brother souls who just light up my world with them just being in it and choosing to share pieces of their life with me.

It is mornings like this morning,
that I am reminded that life has not always been like this.
Life has always been full,
and there is always drama.
But not that very long ago,
my children wanted to be around me but the energy in our home was not supportive.
The laughter and joy,
the deep connective moments,
the conversations,
the family enviroment,
the thought to another,
the connection between myself and my partner,
the love that I so badly wanted to feel,
it was not there.

It was vacant.
And my heart hurt because of it.
My children suffered for the lack of it.
And my lesson is to never settle for so little of such a valuable thing again.

One of the biggest blessing that our lives can have is the blessing of connection.

The blessing that people,
the people that we cherish want to be with us,
JUST BECAUSE.

From my blessed mama heart to yours,
appreciate your blessings and put your focus on them.
They are what make life so beautiful.

As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

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“YOU DISGUST ME!”- WHY THANK YOU FOR THE OPPORTUNITY TO SHOW MY GREATNESS!

 
So effing frustrated with our victim minded world that we have created!
 
Many of today’s humans could not make it in the world just 30 years ago.
 
We have created a society that is weak and scared of each other.
We have created a people that refuses to take responsibility for their thoughts, feelings or actions.
We have created a society that believes that shame is how you heal the world, how you make things right and that it is their DUTY to do just such.
 
We have created a world where confrontation is a bad thing that should be avoided at all cost and any one who stands up and speaks their truth that may not align 100% to another’s should brace themselves for the impact of how bad they are for stating it or setting a boundary.
 
Didn’t they understand their truth, their ideas, their opinions, their work, their art, their education, their pictures were offensive and shameful and not okay to have in this world?
 
Geeze what is wrong with them for sharing any of their stuff?
They should take into account what someone else that they don’t know might be feeling or how looking at whatever it is might make that other person think, because don’t you know YOU ARE NOT IN CHARGE OF YOUR THOUGHTS OR FEELING everyone else is responsible for them, not you.
 
And because you posted it on social media – then you FORCED them to look.
 
This particular man friended me awhile back, ( see image with post)
he follows other sex and relationship coaches, practitioners and tantra educators that speak of openness, finding your orgasm and living in a sex positive world, yet he has decided to report some of my pictures because he claims that they are offensive and nasty…😱
 
Acting as though I have explicit sex pictures on my facebook for all too see…🤣🤣🤣
 
The reason I have chosen to share this with every one is simple,
this kind of attitude is becoming more of a norm.
 
The other day a man went off on my wall here under a musing I did on boundaries and how important it is to have healthy one’s in all areas of our lives, he decided that I was a tantric prostitute who was manipulating men by wearing a long white vintage dress into giving me their money… he insisted that I was being nasty as well in my flaunting of myself as he called it.
 
This sort of attitude that I see rising up more and more is sad.
It is an attitude of fear and separation with zero personal responsibility for our internal worlds.
 
There is so much pain in our world.
SO much pain in the people’s hearts.
And we are being blinded by it.
It forms in anger, disgust, rage, blame and shame toward others.
And it is because somewhere along the line we stopped teaching personal responsibility.
We started making the least mature people in the world the boss of everyone.
 
Competition these days is evil.
You cannot have a winner and a looser because it is hurtful to someone’s feelings.
You cannot have a debate and agree to disagree, because it may hurt someones feelings.
You cannot have certain beliefs, ideas, or experiences and talk about them because someone that may be passing by may hear and be upset by the sharing between two friends.
You are damned if you look, talk, believe or act this way or that way and you are damned if you don’t as well.
 
The ONLY THING that matters is that YOU make sure NOT TO OFFEND any other human being on this planet with your disgusting existence.
 
That is unless you are among the emotionally immature who feel it is socially acceptable to mock, blame, shame and kick others from behind their computer and phone screens about sharing what they are not comfortable with. That is JUST FINE – NO HARM, NO FOUL there.🤔
 
And yet,
we want to watch other’s who are living out loud and we can get caught up in their saga’s, drama’s and ways of living and expressing.
We flock to things that are not average.
We crave connection more then every.
We feel so isolated and misunderstood,
road rage and depression is normal,
everyone is on some prescription drug trying to mask their pain and disconnect.
 
Those who shame and blame the most hold the biggest subscriptions to porn hub and make the most aggressive private messages. On one side they condemn and on the other they explicitly expect.
 
And what does any of this truly mean at the end of the day?
 
It means that our world has progressed no further then the dark ages on this subject.
 
It means that if this were 2000+ years ago the one’s throwing the stones to kill the prostitute are the same one’s who were bedding her in the stable just 15 minutes prior.
 
It means that we still as a mass society value our suffering more then our worth.
 
It means that for those of us who choose to walk on the road less traveled and take the heat,
 
Those of us who are the 1% who will not cower to this crazy victim-hood mentality of settling for less than what we are worth in this life,
who believe in ourselves and whom want to be the light.
 
WE HOLD THE OPPORTUNITY TO GREATNESS.
 
The sheeple remain blind by fear mongering and separation.
 
But YOU are not a sheeple…. ( well at least I pray that if you follow me that you are not a sheeple and if you are well then please take this post as my personal invite for you to uninvite yourself out of my online community and tribe).
 
I BELIEVE IN YOU!
 
I choose to focus on WORTHINESS and that God does not create unworthy things.
 
I want you to know that if you are walking on this road less traveled with me that you are and EAGLE.
 
And you are not walking.
You are flying BABY!
You have wings.
And you have GREATNESS inside of you.
 
Never let those who are blinded by their own darkness cast your light out.
 
And this world,
this world is what you make of it.
Is what you choose to focus on,
so choose to not fear this blind victim-hood mentality of the weak minded and disconnected,
 
Instead,
Live Out Loud, Unapologetic and FREE!
 
💃💃💃 And don’t let my white vintage dress manipulate you too much…lol 🤣🤣🤣
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
 
 
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Rules of My Tribe Plus Why It’s Important To Leap In Faith

A year ago I took a leap of faith and I made a commitment to join a 6 week workshop that my mentor was putting on. It came to me at a time that I was freakin’ out.
I was making good money,
doing what I loved,
but was still not fully stepping all the way into my practice in all the ways that I could.
 
My soul craved so much more.
And so I leaped!
I signed up for this $13,000 dollar 6-week workshop that was designed to kick my a*s and get me moving, get me aligned to my soul message and making money.
 
Now, at this point in time I was consistently making $10,000 to $12,000 a month in my practice working an average of 10-15 hours a week doing what I loved. It was sweet but I desired sweeter and more of me showing up.
I knew that I had more to give,
that I was meant to help more people up-level their lives and success as well.
 
But I did not have an extra $13k laying around, I was just making ends meet.
 
And so the workshop began.
And I was in it.
I FOUND A WAY because I WANTED MORE for ME.
 
My mentor gave some intense homework and I was eating it up. UNTIL she gave a prompt about writing on the RULES of MY TRIBE.
 
I hated this concept of RULES.
I fought against it and I could not wrap my head around it.
And so it has stood that I have not done that bit of homework for a YEAR NOW.
 
Yes here is my confession to you.
 
I miss ” Do Your Homework and You Will See Miracles”
is openly confessing that I have been procrastinating and avoiding with a passion this homework from a workshop that has long been over. But here I sit, KNOWING that it is time,
time to write the RULES of MY TRIBE.
 
Before I do that here and now for you,
I want to share with you something that makes my heart and soul smile and is the reason I do what I do.
 
Today I share with you a text thread between myself and one of my elite coaching clients who is working on her coaching business. I share this with you because I could not be prouder of her and all that she has focused in on and made happen for herself.
 
I share this with you because I believe that if I had NOT taken that leap last year and committed to that 6-week workshop with my mentor that this beautiful coach would not have made in two weeks what that workshop cost me a year ago. I would not have been able to coach her to it. To support her the way that I have and give her the guidance that she needed this year.
 
My message here,
is simple.
 
When one leaps in FAITH,
they carry so many with them,
and raise up a community to the heavens of possibility.
 
I believe that we each have a mission to be our best.
To make ton’s of money doing it.
To live in abundance in all things of goodness.
When we walk in faith,
and share and live from our soul mission,
opening ourselves to abundance and rewards,
we put ourselves into a position to help others do the same.
 
—RULES OF MY TRIBE—
 
1.) DESIRE to be the best you that you feel asking to be seen and felt at your SOUL level.
 
2.) WILLINGNESS to look yourself in the eye, heart and ego and get real with yourself, no matter what you may discover.
 
3.) COURAGE to leap when everything is against you.
4.) COACH-ABILITY to not just hear the advice and guidance but to take the action no matter how it terrifies you or how goofy it may seem and JUST DO IT in FAITH.
 
5.) INTEGRITY and AUTHENTICITY. These may be the most difficult in truth. As we all feel that we exhibit them. The RULE here is to be willing to SEE that you are not always in integrity or being authentic and to love yourself through it, to open into it and to call yourself out when you realize where/how you were not .
 
6.) ACCEPTANCE. Accept that you are human. Accept that we are not always going to agree or get along. Accept that I am human. Accept that others are human. Accept that the ONLY THING you can control is YOU.
 
7.) PLAY. My tribe gets that humor heals. That laughter, goofiness, silliness, and mishaps are beautiful pieces of life and ourselves and should NEVER be hidden or shamed.
 
8.) RESPECT. Self, others and life. Respect the energy that moves through you by living as true to self as you can. Respect others by allowing them to be human and themselves no matter how you feel about their message or looks or anything. Respect the coaching, the sharing, the rawness and never shame someone for revealing any intimacy they need to or asking for help that they may have.
 
9.) BELIEF. It is a major requirement, not just a RULE that if you have a desire to truly be part of my tribe that you BELIEVE. You believe not in my way or in my faith, but that you have a belief in SOUL. You believe that there is something more than just we live, we die and that’s it. No matter your faith, your religion or spiritual guidelines, no matter your race or sex, financial status or relationship views. I have no care here. The requirement is that you believe in a CREATOR, a SOURCE, God and SOUL. Because without this value, life is meaningless and there is no reason to trust, to expand, to move mountains or let our greatness shine.
 
10.) OPEN MINDED. If you hang with me in any fashion, you better have an open mind. I preach and I teach on matters and subjects that can rock your boat and make you sick sometimes. I am not too cautious about my words, I do not aim to please anyone or control, but I will share my views and lessons that I have learned unapologetically with the hope and desire that you too will expand, grow and live in abundance and faith.
 
11.) COMMITMENT. You know that you are the 1%. You know that you are valuable and worthy. You know that even though you have fear and doubt, many reasons to say no to SELF and GROWTH that you still WILL NOT. You say F-ck YES!!!! to SELF. You COMMIT with a crazy desire, a passion, a playfulness. You commit with your open heart, your belief in self and SOUL. You commit with great courage, with an authentic hunger to see your true self and live ABUNDANTLY doing it. You COMMIT to THRIVING. Money, sex, relationship, health, success, soul expansion, healing and so much more. You commit to BEING YOUR BEST and NEVER Saying NO to what YOU KNOW SOUL wants revealed and embraced.
 
12.) ACTION BASED. You know what you want and you take the action needed to get it. Spiritually, energetically, emotionally, mentally and physically.
 
 
Are you part of my tribe?
 
I love you all the same.
Thank you for the follow,
the shares,
the support.
 
Let’s make this year one FOCUSED ON YOUR GREATNESS!
 
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
 
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Grab a consult to learn how you too can move mountains in all areas of your life.
 
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