STOP WORKING THROUGH YOUR SH*T – IT’S JUST AN EXCUSE TO BE YOU.

A spiritual path is not meant to “fix” who you are but instead to “reveal” who you are.

 

So stop your MF processing around the path.

How much do you have stop and stare at the rocks, the weeds, the trampled flowers, the horse sh*t that was dropped and anything else that you deem to not be pleasant and an imperfection to your path?

 

Granted I am not telling you to disregard your sh*t.

That would not be good for sure,

and we can easily look out into the world of the energetically blind and deaf who do just this ALL THE TIME, and see what A-holes they are,

but what I am wanting to bring your awareness too is that perhaps you are actually using your “processing” of your sh*t as an excuse to not move forward.

As a reason a.k.a excuse/blame of the outside world and past events/people so that you can lean out of your power right now and just sit in your victim status.

 

Maybe, just maybe you are thinking that all is forgiven in your “working through it” and that because you are oh so responsible and aware of your sh*t that the world should just bow to you and be okay with you NOT GETTING THROUGH YOUR SH*T…

 

Because you have been working’ it.

You have been doing the damn THING that you know you need to do,

it is not your fault that it’s just not seeming to get through to the core.

 

Well, I get all that.

 

Virgo here!

Processor here!

Hyper-Critical of self for sure here!

Analyzer and Overly responsible for self and the world here!

 

Yeppers, those are all me.

And they are always me even when I write up musings like this one handing you your sh*t back.

I write this because I feel responsible,

I want to help,

I am speaking to myself as well,

and I get the “awoken mindset” of processing is key to growth and transformation.

 

After all, you cannot change the things that you are not aware of, right?

 

Right.

 

So now that you are aware of your sh*t,

and if you are a relatively intelligent person,

or at least can get some basic common sense,

then WTF makes you believe that by standing in the epicenter of your sh*t and focusing on it, digging through it, and smelling it much longer is going to ever clear the path and make you perfect?

 

Let’s just ask,

“Do you honestly believe that the path or you were ever intended on being perfect according to our idea of perfection?”

 

Would you ever learn a damn thing if the path was perfect?

Would you really be happy if you believed yourself to be perfect?

Would you really want a relationship with a said “perfect” person?

 

Life is about clarifying who we are.

Life is about growth and expansion, and growth and expansion ONLY occurs when we can learn, gain knowledge and insight, have experiences, and gain wisdom.

 

Wisdom among other things comes from mistakes.

A.k.a learning.

 

Or you could also say CONTRAST.

 

Contrast is another way of looking at the life that we are manifesting and the life that we desire to manifest.

What we perceive as good and bad.

 

And we cannot have, nor even truly know what we want if we do not ever experience what we do not want at some level. When we experience these spaces of growth and learning in the contrast of life it makes us want for something better and it sets us to a grander vision for who we are.

 

Expanding us.

 

That expansion creates room for us to manifest in what we learned that we wanted from the contrast that was provided.

And we easily manifest it when we RELAX into the knowing that it is ours when we sooth ourselves back into a feel good place in our hearts and thoughts.

 

Now let me ask you this…

 

How does processing make you feel?

Does it excite you?

Is processing and over analyzing your every pile of sh*t soothing to your soul? your thoughts and feelings?

 

Or have you discovered that all the processing out is actually just causing you stress because NOW you really see where you have been f-cking up and the more you focus on your f-ck ups, the more insecure you are feeling in who you are, your path and your choices?

 

I am betting it is the latter here. (Just sayin’)

 

So what are you to do if you don’t want to keep repeating some sh*t on your path,

but you now sorta realize that your hyper focus to your sh*t is causing you to remain in your sh*t and even creating a neediness and lack of personal responsibility that is in turn making you out of integrity with WHO YOU REALLY ARE?

 

Are you ready for it?

 

Here is my big answer for ya.

Stop trying to be like someone else.

Stop trying to get it all right.

Stop fearing who you are and JUST DO YOU.

Be YOU.

 

You have got to accept and love you in all your sh*t,

or you will run around this life with everyone avoiding you because YOU ARE AVOIDING YOU.

 

If you are looking to the outside world to give you direction as to who you are then that is the sh*t pile you need to turn and walk away from right now.

 

Find your soothing thoughts.

Appreciate the contrast of your life.

Follow what feels legitimately good to your soul,

and stop acting out of fear of losing people or things.

 

It has you over processing you.

 

And that,

that will get you into a pile of pity, victim sh*t like no other.

 

So JUST STOP.

 

SAY IT WITH ME….

 

MY OVER PROCESSING AND SELF-CRITICISM IS KEEPING ME OUT OF PERSONAL INTEGRITY AND SOUL ALIGNMENT.

 

LET THAT SH*T GO.

 

As Always,

Stop Existing & Start Living

“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”

 

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Yours and others?

 

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HOLDING SPACE FOR SELF AND DESIRES IS F-CKING HARD SH*T!

HOLDING SPACE FOR SELF AND DESIRES IS F-CKING HARD SH*T!
Man is it ever.
And most people are not strong enough to do just that.
They want to sorta throw up all their desires and fears on anyone who will listen.
Especially their fears.
And then later ,
IF they are doing internal work they want to share, share, share their desires.
All because they are learning to “speak their truth.”
And you know what?
That is true.
Anyone of us who have ventured down this path of self-awareness and love knows how hard it is to learn harmony in this boat of new found territory where we are given permission to ASK FOR WHAT WE WANT.
And it seems that we should be able to just ask,
and then any logical soul knows that whomever we are asking of will then answer.
And in a perfect world they will answer the way that WE WANT THEM TOO….
Every time of course.
LOL.
Okay maybe not every time but most of the time, right?
Because if we are feeling this,
then certainly they are as well.
And if we are both feeling this,
then it just makes sense that it can easily happen.
However, often this is not the case.
Often even if everyone feels it, thinks it and may want it,
frequently the universe has set a different course for the time being and we have to learn the lesson of ACCEPTANCE.
Turning our expectations that we claim we do not have,
but secretly always do,
into acceptance of what is and that we are always being given EXACTLY what we need in life at any given moment.
And you know what?
That right there is some hard a*s sh*t!
But it is worth it.
When we are accessing new areas of self,
becoming more embodied,
awake as some would say.
and present in life and who we are,
At first it is a beautiful land of mystery.
There Is adventure and sizzling, scary yet fun highs and lows that we easily become almost addicted to.
We learn to ride our waves of pain and pleasure,
because we start to understand this is so opening to our truth.
And it feels phenomenal to surf through these new waters and learn SELF.
The adventure of birthing into ourselves is a powerful, yummy experience.
Although not always fun.
It carries with it pain and agony.
We learn that inorder to grow and expand that we have to let go of somethings that no longer serve us,
and sometimes that can even mean relationships that we cherish.
Or jobs that pay our bills.
Because even though we enjoy them,
they are not feeding our souls journey any longer and holding on only means that we will sink our own ship.
This is some hard a*s sh*t to move through!
But it is worth it.
Then we have the internal world of our emotions.
OMFG! Don’t even let me get started here.
This subject of our human experience is among the hardest of the hard sh*t.
And that is because we are never taught how to hold space.
Not truly for someone else,
and most certainly not for self.
We get derailed by our ego’s at every corner of our path.
At first we chitter chat in our heads about fairness,
lostness, how we wish for this or that,
then when the pity party of the inverted ego starts to wear down we turn to,
look at what I am doing and how far I have come.
Pat myself on the back,
cause no one else is here to do it.
Or let me spout off about my good work,
my good deeds,
etc. etc.
The work of the extraverted ego here.
And we bounce around with our pride and our happiness.
But when no one notices right back to the inverted ego we go.
Holding those unannounced expectations on others still.
Catching ourselves.
Witnessing our ego’s is some hard AF sh*t.
And you know what is a hundred times more challenging?
Giving yourself GRACE.
COMPASSION for self to be human.
Say what?
Now I know that I have lost my marbles somewhere here in my kitchen on this rainy day.
Compassion for self?
Seriously.
May sound nice,
but there is no way that we can do that, right.
I mean I don’t want to let myself off the hook.
I am an awakened soul.
I am growing and want to make sure that I don’t mess up.
Mmmmmhmmmmm….
just like every other self proclaimed awakened soul.
But here is a little news flash my dear awakening soul,
YOU ARE STILL HUMAN.
And being human means that you may ultimately know everything,
because God consciousness does reside inside of you and moves through you,
the consciousness that creates universes is in you.
But you only get to be perfect and 100% accurate when you are in full alignment with God.
That is when you are on point.
And in order to do this,
you have to learn how to hold space for self which simply means that you have to learn how to not get trapped in your stinking thinking, criticizing and pity.
You have to not let yourself overthink everything.
You have to learn to hold your emotions in love like you would a precious baby,
without a need to try to do anything but hold them,
love them,
and APPRECIATE them.
This is ACCEPTANCE.
And this my dear is what we all must practice surrendering to each and every day of our human lives.
Because when we practice this we are practicing compassion,
GRACE for self.
And if you are looking for grace from anything else,
including God,
then check your expectations.
God always gives you grace.
God always gives you unconditional love.
God always trusts you to do what feels best to you.
God never turns away from you.
Can you say that you do the same for yourself?
Bet not.
And guess how you get into alignment with God?
Yeppers,
by gosh by golly I think you may have guessed it correctly.
By offering the same to self.
And to others second.
And that is some hard AF Sh*t to do!
But it is worth it.
You are worth it.
God knows this.
It is time though for you to KNOW THIS.
As Always,
Stop Existing & Start Living
“Coaching for Grown A*s Believers”
Many years ago I learned how to witness these hard AF things in self, and I spent a few years highly challenged by them. But after practicing and practicing, what I learned and was able to achieve was priceless.
Today what used to take me months and even years to move through I can successfully move through in hours or minutes even.
Can you imagine how much more fulfilling and fun life could be if you did not have to fill your mind and heart with so much chaos and worry?
Let me teach you my secrets.
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